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a bit scared - November 8th 2010, 09:38 PM

i have a family friend who is like a grandfather to me but after today i am a bit scared to be alone with him. he gave me a hug and then tryed to kiss me and make me kiss him i said no and got really scared. he stoped but i dont feel comfortable around him anymore. he is like 80? i havent told anyone yet just posted it here after debating whether to keep it to myself. idk what to do. i love him as a grandpa nd dnt want him in jail or anything but yea idk what to do.


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Re: a bit scared - November 9th 2010, 12:43 AM

Hey Maggie -

It's definitely NOT okay that he made you feel uncomfortable, and that he made you try to kiss him. It's not right for an older man to act this way around an 18 year old girl - it's not appropriate, and it's not fair to you. Remember that you have every right to say 'no' to him, and you absolutely should not have to be alone with him if you don't feel comfortable doing so.

I think this is something you should talk to a member of your family about.. one of your parents, grandparents, an aunt or uncle, any relative. Make sure an adult knows about this, okay? Someone who can speak to the family friend to find out what caused him to act this way, and to make sure he knows it's NOT okay for him to treat you like that.

You don't have to keep this to yourself, okay? I know telling someone may seem scary, but you don't have to keep quiet about this. Again, you have a right to tell someone, and there's no reason you should have to stay silent about what happened. It's absolutely, positively okay to talk to someone.

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Re: a bit scared - November 9th 2010, 04:04 AM

Thanks sarah. I don't know if i will tell anyone because i just dont feel comfortable talking to anyone around me other then my boyfriend who is 17.


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Re: a bit scared - November 9th 2010, 05:11 AM

I'm really sorry that happened It is never okay if they made you feel uncomfortable. I know it must be scary to tell a family member, so I would just try and keep some distance from him for awhile and only be near him if there is someone else with you. Talking to your boyfriend about it can probably help as he could make you feel better and calm your nerves. If it ever happens again, just remember to say no and make it clear.


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Re: a bit scared - November 9th 2010, 06:39 PM

thanks for the advice i told my best friend who is 19 today and he doesnt want me around the guy anymore alone. so i wont hang out with him or anything unless im around other people. i havent told my boyfriend yet. im scared to tell my boyfriend

[edit] i also later on told my sister and her boyfriend. they told me to ignore his calls and they will try their best to not leave me alone with him.

i also told my boyfriend and he was a bit dumbfounded he wished he could come right over and cuddle and comfort me.


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