Triggering: Memories

[lost_scared_confused]

Ok so i am new at this bare with me........................ 4 years ago i was raped by 10 guys. i struggled with it at the start but i got really good at hidding it from everyone ( no one around me knows excatly what happened) but now these memories are flooding back. I was at the trainstation and a guy come up to me and tried to kiss me which is what bought back all these memories. I just dont want them and dont know how to deal with them. I drink alot and dad hates it but i want to so badly block out these thoughts. My psychologist i am seeing i told him a little like how many guys there were but didnt go into details and he was like i dont think i am qualified enough to talk to you as its not your typical sexual abuse and he was like here talk to these people at some sexual abuse centre. I am to scared to talk to them i had just gotten up the courage to talk to my psycholgist about it cos i trust him but anyways i just am lost and confused i dont want these flash backs how do i stop them???

[Max_99]

Hi there! Keep holding on, I promise it will get better <3

When I am dealing with flashbacks, one of the things that helps me most is to either whisper to myself or aloud or even in my head what is going on around me. If I'm having a flashback about, let's say, my boyfriend being in bed with me, I might say "I'm at school, and I'm sitting in a blue chair doing my math. The teacher is standing to the far left near the door and D'sean is on my right reading a book."

Actively reminding myself to stay in the present moment by doing that helps me A TON, and gets me through things. You may also consider talking to your psychiatrist or psychologist about social skills classes or getting into groups where you can be involved with a variety of people in a controlled and safe environment, this will help you adjust to everyone. Plus you'll make some new friends!

Hope that helps, talk to ya later I love you!
-Laci

[Emily.]

Hey,

I'm sorry your psychologist let you down in that way. But I do think he reccomended the sexual assault center with only your best interest in mind. He wants you to get the help you deserve. Maybe take him up on his advice and give the center a try? I know it will be hard and scary working up the courage to open up to someone new, but you can do it, hun. I have faith in you.

In the mean time tell your psychologist you aren't sure if your ready to talk to someone else and could you start by opening up to him a bit more. I can't imagine he won't want to listen and help you in any way he can.

Keep strong and I'm here if you ever want to talk. You can drop me a PM anytime.
<3 Emily

[BethanyAnn]

you really need to get better help. It isn't safe for you to go through this alone, I know it is hard to talk about but you can't keep that in

[kadyCHAOS]

hey,
when i get flashbacks i do something to keep my attention of the bad memory. i find playing a video game or a doing a word search on my phone keeps my mind busy.