Is this abuse?

[NinjaChick]

My mom will refuse to make food for me and she threatens me every time that I don't do something perfect the first time. Also she will say that if someone comes over and I step one toe out of line I will regret it. She hasn't hit me in a while but she will leave with for hours on end and not let me have food or water or anything. If she comes home and finds out that I tried to get myself a basic need then I get punished. I'm told while if you won't do anything for me then I don't have to do anything for you. She has been treating me like this for as long as I can remember. I've also been abused by my father and my stepbrother and I have no ways to keep away from them. I can't really tell though if what she does is just stress or if its actually abuse. I only know that my dad and stepbrother because I told someone in middle school. The person I told didn't do anything though. What should I do?????

[snakewhisperer28]

yeah that dose sound like abuse to me. she wont even let u take care of yourself... thats not ok. you need to talk to a trusted adult about this. do u have any extended family who may be able to help?

[BasicFacts]

That is definitely abuse. Have you ever told anyone besides the person in middle school? An authority figure or a trusted family member? There is no question that what she is doing is abuse.

[NinjaChick]

I've told a couple of people in my family and they don't believe me. I can try to tell someone at school but I have a few girls who follow me literally everywhere. I don't know how to get rid of them long enough to tell someone because they won't let me out of their sight. But I am ok with telling someone at school. I'm at a different school now and I'm sure that someone here would tell.

[BasicFacts]

^If you have a school counselor, could you contact them about setting up a private meeting? Or is there a way you could get to a teacher after or before school, so those girls wouldn't be following you?

[Gidig]

You can e-mail or call the school for a private meeting with a school counselor. Ask them to call you down to the office so you don't have to explain to your friends if they're in class with you. When you come back you can tell them that you had a schedule conflict or were asking about scholarships or something.

This is definitely abuse, emotional and physical. And I think it is a good idea to tell someone. You don't deserve to live with that, no one does. While your mom may be stressed out and taking it out on you, that's still not okay. I'm so sorry you have to live with that. =(

Are you friends with the people who follow you around? Perhaps you could confide in one or two of them? You could consider staying at a friends house until things get worked out, or something of that sort. At least their emotional support would be helpful. It may be easier to get in contact with a counselor or something then.

Good luck! Let me know if you ever need anything.
Maria.

[NinjaChick]

I haven't been able to get on in a while. I'm friends with a few of the people who follow me. If I try to stay at one of their houses I'll just be in more trouble when I come back to mine. Setting up a private meeting is a good idea though. I'm probably going to do that. I'll keep everyone updated!

[BethanyAnn]

yes it is abuse I believe you already posted this though.