Female Advice Preferred: Assaulted

[*MusicIsMyLife*]

I was sexually assaulted by a family member. I am really scared. I have never told anyone. This person took advantage of me.

One night when we were alone at his house. I was watching tv and he came into the room. He pushed me down onto the bed and wouldn't let me go and started ripping off my clothes, he then started touching me in inappropriate places. He wouldn't stop. I was screaming but no one could hear me since noone was there. After that he told me that I have to listen to everything that he says. He then started having sex with me. I couldn't stop him. I tryed stopping him. He then started taking pictures of me and said that I better not tell anyone what he did or he is going to hurt me. I am so scared. This happend twice in a week.

It feels akward for me since it was a family member. No one knows. I can't tell my parents because they hate me and I think that they won't believe me. I can't tell anyone.

I keep having these flashbacks about everything that happend. Everytime I try to go to sleep I keep having these mental pictures of what happend. I think that everything that has happend is all my FAULT!! He says that it is all my fault.

I think that no one would believe me so thats why I haven't wrote about this sooner. It's all my FAULT!! I tryed to stop him but he wouldn't stop, he wouldn't let me go.

[BethanyAnn]

Sweety I am sorry this happened, but I think that is classified as rape not assault, and you need to turn him in.. he may have not deleted the pictures or got rid of them, so maybe you should see the police and talk to them

[FlyingTrue]

Rebecca, he had no right to do what he did in the first place. He is clearly in the wrong, and what happened was not your fault in anyway. You need to go to the police right away, for your own protection.

[Berries and Cream]

Hey Rebecca.
I'm sorry you had to go through this. Being an adult does NOT give him the right to blame you for what happened; it is NOT your fault that he abused you. Don't listen to him, be strong and report him. It's one way you can prevent anything else from taking place. If you tell someone, he will not hurt you anymore. It also takes time to recover, but I'm sure you can pull through. Let me know if you need anything. I'm here for you<3

[Beautiful_mind]

First of all its never your fault that this happened. This person took advantage of you and has no right to do so. I would urge you to tell someone around you. your parents i am sure dont hate you. But they do need to know whats going on so they can protect you.
Counselling would be a great thing for you. i have worked with many victims of sexual assault and its best to get counselling straight away if you leave it for to long generally things can get worse. flash backs are a normal part of processing whats happened to you. over time those will decrease but its important that you have support and talk to someone because this can take years to over come so its important you surround yourself with people that will support you

[NorielM]

Don't blame yourself. It's not your fault. Don't be hesitant to tell your family what happened. They are your family and they will surely understand you especially your mom.. If you're not comfortable with it, find someone, a close friend will do, and tell her/him what happened. And if this pictures of what happened continues to show up, i suggest that you go to a specialists.. You surely don't deserve to suffer from all of those. i hope that it helps..

[shadow_of_others]

Just keep reminding yourself that you did try and stop him. Therefore, it is not your fault that it happened. Sometimes we can't control the situations we're in. We're just stuck. It doesn't make it our fault, though. If it were your friend in this situation, would you tell her it was her fault? My guess is no. Be kind to yourself and try and apply that thinking to yourself. Blaming yourself will only tear you apart more... Believe me, I know.

You really need to report him. I know it's difficult. I never had the guts to do it. But please consider reporting him, for your safety and others, too. There's no denying that it will be hard, but then he can't hurt you anymore...

If you need anything, PM me.

[rosaleah]

In no way it is your FAULT that this happened. He was probably a family member that you trusted (until now). So i can tell this must be hard for you. Don't be shy... Tell your mom or dad. And if they don't believe you go right ahead and report him with the police anyway. They will believe you. You don't want this to happen again. For now stay away from him a much as you can.

Hope everything gets better and dealt with