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Unhappy My bestfriend abused me... - September 25th 2011, 03:22 AM

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Well, I had a bestfriend. He was so nice to me, If i ever cried he would be there in a heartbeat. Like if I started to get upset he would say."Whose ass do I have to beat?" You know just to make a feel better...

So we went out because I knew I loved him.
Bad mistake...

When we went out he kept getting jealous at everything...even when I hung out with girls!

But of course i thought that it was just showing me that he loved me...

On day I was saying hi to him in front of his friends...I didn't say anything else but Hi and a wave. He came up to my locked and said. "Why did you do that?" I ask "what?" he said."Say hi to me in front of my friends!" I thought he was joking till I seen his face..I said."I'm sorry i didn't know that it would be a problem. in a sarcastic way. Before i knew it was was on the floor. He punched me in the face...

I was in absolute shock! Did he just really hit me? I didn't say anything...I couldn't even cry.. He walked away.

The next day he came up to me with a necklace saying how sorry he was...and how much he loved me and all this bullshit...but i believed him..and for some reason...he turned it around and made me believe it was my fault...and I believed every word of it..

I thought I was in love...

but then one day he called me and I was at a a hospital 3 hours away from the town i live in..I was seeing my grandfather in the hospital...He called me, but I couldn't answer the phone because I was in a hospital!

When I got back to school...He went up to my locker and ask angry."Why didn't you answer my calls?" I told him about my grandfather and He yelled."Lier!" and hit my head with the locker. So I have a black eye (from the first time) and now a dent in my head...

That was the last straw..

I went to the school cop and told her what was going on with me. I never cried that hard before..

He went to juvi for 4 months...

It took about 6 months to tell people the truth of what happened..

He's been out for about a year now and still my friend...we act like it never happened.but in the back of my mind...its still there...

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Re: My bestfriend abused me... - September 25th 2011, 07:27 PM

Well I am glad that; that abuse is over for you ..and I hope it never happens again like ever cause your awesome ^_^


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Re: My bestfriend abused me... - September 25th 2011, 07:27 PM

After all that I wouldn't get into a relationship with him. Just continue to be friends with him and that's it. I'm glad you stood up and said something. I hope that made him realize what he did wrong. No one deserves to be treated like that, ever. Continue to watch yourself around him.


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Re: My bestfriend abused me... - September 25th 2011, 07:42 PM

The real issue is what you like about this person.

It is always, always totally unacceptable to be abused or intentionally hurt by anyone. It's never, ever justified or OK. Whatever good qualities might be there are sadly overtaken by the menace of his losing control. Unless and until he can commit to totally stopping this behavior (and maybe with the help of ongoing therapy), then you should always, always look to protect yourself, which usually means severing contact with him. What you 'Love" about him is a mirage, it's the fantasy of having someone in your life. But, the task isn't to have just anyone there, it's having someone who appreciates who you are and cherishes what you have to offer as a person. Better to tolerate the loneliness, it's a lot easier than the fear.


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