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I feel like Dying - March 26th 2012, 05:36 AM

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Around 6 or 7 months ago, I got raped by my oldest brother's best friend. Does anyone know how to, I don't know, cope? I feel, well that's just it, I don't feel anything. I probably sound pretty stupid but I can't think straight and I just don't know what to do.
   
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Re: I feel like Dying - March 26th 2012, 09:45 AM

I can't even begin to understand what your going through, but I'll do the best I can to help.
All you really need is time. You went through a very traumatic experience recently and I know that it is hard to just forget about it and go on with your daily life, that will take time.
Another thing you can do is talk to someone about it, not so much to tell them everything about what happened, but just to help cope with the repercussions of what happened.
If your not comfortable talking to someone then writing your feelings down in a diary could be helpful, or writing poetry, or playing a sport, or even drawing. Just anything that you can completely lose yourself in.
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Re: I feel like Dying - March 26th 2012, 10:20 AM

Did you report the rape? If not, I suggest it, but do know you don't have to if you don't want to, I just think it may help a bit. As for ways to cope, it just takes time after something like this. I highly suggest therapy or counseling, it can really help a lot to have a professional there with you giving you professional advice. Meanwhile, you should talk to someone you trust, a therapist, counselor, even a friend. You don't need to deal with this alone. If you can't talk to someone, write it down, and if your worried someone will read it, you can burn it, or shred it after wards. Write down EVERYTHING that is bothering you, whether it's related to the rape or not, get all those feelings out there on paper, and burn it or shred it, even soak it in water and rip it up tons of times. It may sound silly but it can help, and give a sense of ripping up or burning those bad feelings.


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Re: I feel like Dying - March 26th 2012, 05:35 PM

Hey there,

I'm really sorry that this has happened to you. You don't sound stupid or anything, honestly.


Some coping mechanisms:
  • Talk to someone. A doctor, nurse, therapist, counselour, friend, family member, etc. It would surprise you how much talking to someone can actually help.
  • Write a letter to your abuser. You obviously don't have to send it. You can shred it, burn it, or store it away. Whatever feels okay for you personally.
  • Distract your mind. If you find yourself thinking about the rape, stop yourself immediately and do something else. Watch your favorite TV show, draw, dance, etc. Do something that you like to do.
  • I find that Yoga really helps. It's healthy for your body and it relaxes your mind.
  • Finally, surround yourself with supportive people and distance yourself from those who aren't too supportive. It's important that you feel loved in this time of need.
What happened to you is not your fault nor do you deserve to dwell on it. You deserve happiness and to move on. I hope that some of these techniques are of help to you. If you ever need someone to talk to, I'm always around. You are NOT alone. <3


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Re: I feel like Dying - March 26th 2012, 09:37 PM

Thank you guys so much. This really helped me, actually. Talking about it helped a lot, too. When I told my best friend (who's also my boyfriend) it felt good to just-- let go of a part of me I kept hiding. He even didn't feel any anger or anything towards me I had thought that he'd hate me since I never told him... But it turned out okay
   
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Re: I feel like Dying - March 26th 2012, 09:48 PM

I'm so glad that you've found support in your boyfriend. That's wonderful!
   
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