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Question Therapy Questions? - June 29th 2012, 10:08 PM

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So, I am seeing a therapist for various reasons, and I have so questions.
I have seen this psycologist before, and all was well. But, now I have more issues (including self-harm, depression[?] and an eating disorder) I keep trying to explain stuff to him, and he's always asking stuff like "How long do you plan on doing this for? 5 years? 10 years?" (cutting) and "Well, why do you feel miserable?" and "How are you different from everyone else? If they don't deserve to be cut by you, why do YOU deserve to be cut by you?"

etc...Great and all I suppose, question is, how do I answer all this stuff?!
I'm always like "I dunno" and he's like "You know your not getting off that easy, right??" I don't know why I feel the way I do, or why I feel like I deserve the stuff I deserve. He told me to write down some stuff when I feel low/depressed so I can answer next time, but honestly, I have no clue why I want to die, or anything else.

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Re: Therapy Questions? - June 29th 2012, 10:18 PM

Why dont you answer them how you feel? When i SHed if somewhere to say how long will you do it for i would have probably said how ever long i need. If that makes any sens.

Do you feel him questioning you help you or not?


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Re: Therapy Questions? - June 29th 2012, 11:19 PM

"I don't know" is what you're most likely thinking and that's the first thing that comes to mind, but have you ever had an answer for one of the questions after therapy? Maybe write it down and have a list of what you want to talk about with him. There has to be a reason as to why you are in this place right now. It may not be obvious, but maybe soon you might realize what's going on or what lead you to take part in these events. I know I do that a lot. With my therapist I just like to vent and yeah i guess complain. So I got past the self harm thing and decided to talk about the problems in my life. I know questions like these are hard. Do you really like him? It may be easier to answer questions like that with somebody you feel comfortable sharing with? I hope I could help you somewhat.


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Re: Therapy Questions? - June 29th 2012, 11:44 PM

See, in therapy "I don't know" tends to mean one of two things, either you really truly don't know, or you know and you don't want to talk about it. If you feel pressured to answer, but you need more time, try saying something like "I've never thought about that, or if I knew I would tell you, but I really don't" (only say that one if you would actually tell him.) Analyzing these things requires taking a step back from them, which is difficlut, but it sounds like that's where he's trying to get you. If you take a second before cutting, for example, to try and figure out what you're feeling and thinking then he can help you deal with whatever that is in a healthier way. Or if you realize that you want to die and you take a step back and try to ask yourself why that is, etc.


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Re: Therapy Questions? - June 30th 2012, 02:13 AM

Thanks you guys for all of the helpful advice!
Yeah, the first thing that comes to mind is usually "I don't know". I think him questioning me IS helpful, because I never talk about my problems with anyone, and I tend to resist questioning, so I think it helps me take a step back and look at myself in a new light.
I think when he was asking how long I planned to self harm, he was just trying to show me that SH is not a good idea for the future, but being passivly suicidal, it doesn't really matter to me if its a good idea or not. Ha.
Anyways, thanks again.
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