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Question working for happiness - December 28th 2014, 09:32 PM

When I was younger I used to be just happy.
Was I lucky back than?
Is it normal to be just happy?
Am I expecting to much of life when I don't want to consciously work to be happy?


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Re: working for happiness - December 29th 2014, 03:36 AM

When you were younger, you were innocent. You wanted to feel safe in your own little world and that's what children and younger people need, the ability to stay safe in their own little world. As you got older however, you learnt more about the world and you learnt more about how people live their lives. I mean it's not just you anymore, and that's a tough lesson to learn.

The impacts of the decisions of someone else can intrude on your own little world. For example, if you have been bullied, or if you have been severely injured in a car accident. Over the years, people tend to introduce themselves into your own little world. Your friends and family and people who you welcome to your stratosphere. So much so that when they leave, when they pass away or move house or whatever the case may be, a hole is left in your safe place.

So, I mean if you're questioning that, why was it that when I was younger, I was far happier, then maybe that's one theory, the introduction of new people and new ideas into your once safe space.

The bottom line is, your life is still going to suck LOL, people are still going to irritate you or worse, people are still going to invade your safe space as you get older, but it's about how you react to that. I mean my friend stopped talking to me and a hole was left in a safe space. If I was in the right state of mind, I would have continued on or found something else, a passion or someone else to fill the hole and re-introduce themselves. But I wasn't in the right state of mind and I reacted by constantly questioning it. For two years I questioned it and wondered what happened to my space instead of fixing it.

In the pursuit of happiness, I think you should be cautiously front-footed, highly loose and defensive like you have never been.

Cautiously front-footed: In the pursuit of happiness, try and introduce yourself into finding ways of keeping yourself happy, without making it a quest or something you need to do, just sit down with yourself and think about what makes you happy, music, art whatever the case may be, but try and find something.

Loose: When I asked my teacher what the Pursuit of Happiness actually was, she gave me the example of Mount Kilimanjaro. "If climbing Mount Kilimanjaro is what's going to make you happy, then you are absolutely mad, but you have every right to be. Do whatever makes you happy." So don't be afraid in the pursuit of happiness. Don't hesitate to meet that guy or apply for your favourite job, everything is fun when you're loose about it.

Defensive: Try and hold on to the little things, every little bit of happiness you have. That means making sure you defend your privacy, and making sure you appreciate everything. I mean my life could be sucky as hell but I still enjoy my favourite song, I still enjoy Friday nights, there are things that make you happy no matter what and hold on to them.

I don't think you will be like you were when you were younger. Most likely not, but if you follow the three steps I showed you, you will be quite content. And contentment, my friend is a very legitimate type of happiness. .


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Re: working for happiness - December 29th 2014, 08:10 AM

Wow that was really really well said.
And I guess that means that it IS normal to need to fight hard to get happiness.
Those three steps are amazing. Thanx I'll try.


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