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borderline - November 9th 2017, 04:25 AM

Anyone with BPD feel stable when they're not in any type of relationship? Like by relationship I mean with a bf or gf, with a close friend, therapist etc.

When you are in those type relationships do you feel you get unstable?
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Re: borderline - November 10th 2017, 02:29 PM

I don't have BPD but a close friend of mine does. He is currently avoiding relationships because of how much the BPD can affect him when getting close to someone.

My counsellor said it's likely that I have PTSD and though I know it's different to BPD, I too am avoiding relationships because of how difficult I find them. I get too attached too quickly, and then get really insecure and worried about them cheating on me, leaving me for someone else etc. I know it's not the same, but it can definitely be more difficult trying to navigate mental health and relationships.

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Re: borderline - November 12th 2017, 01:17 AM

Yeah, it s hard. I guess using the word unstable is not very descriptive since unstable can mean different things for different people in this kind of situation when there really close to some one . Like for me when I get in a relationship, really close to someone. I get very unstable like for example if they do something to hurt me I can quickly go in to depression which i hate depression so thats another reason I like ot avoid relationships because I don't want to be depressed. On the other hand though being in a relationship gives me like this extreme happy feeling.

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Re: borderline - November 12th 2017, 01:21 AM


I do not have BPD but I wanted to reply since I have a few friends and family members who do. I do know that relationships can lead to some people with BPD feeling unstable. I know that a number of the people that I know, have dealt with this at some point. However, from what I have been told by them, it is helpful for them to work closely with their treatment team and their partner when getting into a relationship. By working with their treatment team and their partner, they are able to work on finding tools to deal with the instability. And, I do know, a few people who have been able to find a healthy balances and are quite happy in their relationships. Mental health troubles can definitely cause certain difficulties when trying to be in a relationship but it is possible to find a balance and enjoy a relationship.

I think, it is also important to note that different mental health issues effect all people differently. I know that instability in regards to relationships (platonic and romantic) can be quite common for people with BPD but I know that those people are impacted differently.

I am hoping that there will be others who can share more personal experiences with you sometime soon.

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