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Nightmare maybe? - October 9th 2018, 09:26 PM

So I am not 100% sure that this is the right place for this...So if it isn't I apologize.

So this morning I woke up and realized I had wet the bed and not just a little bit but a lot, so much that it went through my sheet, mattress pad, and my mattress is wet as well. I used to wet the bed all the time as a kid even was I was like 7 because of the abuse I had gone through.

I think I had a nightmare but I do not remember it, but the reason I think I did is because When I looked at my bed it was a mess the fitted sheet was basically completely off my bed. My top sheet and comforted was all twisted and I was tangled up in it.

So with that knowledge and how much of an accident I had I am assuming it was a nightmare. I also think this because my abuser has come back in my life threw my sister and even though I have no contact with him I hear about him all the damn time.

My thing is there a way I can know for sure if I had a nightmare and that is why I wet the bed? I know most people remember their nightmares, so I don't get why I don't. My mom and grandma believe it was a nightmare since I haven't wet the bed like this in a long time.

I also feel really bad and embarrassed because I am a 27 year old that wet the bed. No one my age should be wetting the bed. How do I deal with this, it is making me feel bad, and like I need to punish myself for doing something most two years olds do and grow out of at the age of 5.



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Re: Nightmare maybe? - October 10th 2018, 12:07 AM

Hi,

I am so sorry that you are having a hard time right now with this and I hope you will be okay soon. When you have a nightmare you can just get scared and sleep through it. Or you can wake up from this and if you are really scared you can even wet the bed. We can't control our dreams and if we could it would be great because we would never have nightmares and we would only dream about good things.

Before you go to sleep if you are able to read or writing or drawing or just talk to someone and then fall a sleep and hopefully you will be okay and not have nightmares. Try to not put anything scary on or read scary books because sometimes this can make us feel scared and then we are not able to sleep or we can end up having nightmares.

Also if this keeps happening you can try getting an appointment with you're doctor and letting them know about this and that you need some help. And they would be able to help you out with this. You we're saying that you're blanket and sheets we're all together, if you can try to have them nice on your bed and this way nothing gets wrapped around you when you are sleeping. Then hopefully you will have a good night sleep. I hope you will be okay soon. Hugs.


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Re: Nightmare maybe? - October 10th 2018, 06:07 AM

Hey Frankie. I'm sorry if this is littered with typos, I'm replying while mobile.

First of all, please don't feel ashamed over this. I think it would make sense that you're having this reaction after you having to deal with hearing people frequently talk about your abuser again. It's hard enough dealing with the reality of the abuse happening in the first place, let alone having people talk about them in a positive light.

There's possibly several things that can cause it, even for adults. Nightmares is definitely a possibility and kind of sounds likely with what you described even if you don't remember. I often don't remember nightmares and I think that might just be my brain telling me I can't handle it. Stress can also be a factor and I imagine your abuser is definitely a stressor, but there may be other things stressing you out. I haven't had issues with bedwetting in quite a while, but it persisted well until I was 18. If I were in your situation, I wouldn't be surprised if it started happening again.

You shouldn't feel ashamed and you absolutely do not deserve to be punished for it, though. It happens in adults for several reasons and the possible reasons you may be are on that list. They're valid reasons. Nightmares and stress aren't your fault.

Regardless of the reasons, I think it would be a good idea to take some steps to prevent it from happening and prepare for if it happens again. I'd really recommend a waterproof sheet to start. You can easily put a regular sheet over top of them, too. I use one for several reasons and one of them is because of my history with this. For the time being, I'd try not to drink a lot before bed and to make sure you go to the bathroom beforehand. I think it'd also be a good idea to try to do some things to calm down before you sleep. You might find coloring, reading, or journaling helpful. I don't personally like it, but I know music helps a lot of people calm down and it may also help if you leave something play while you sleep. Even if this is just a one-off I think it'd be good to take some precautions until you're fairly sure your brain has chilled out with any probable nightmares

It's definitely hard with this being something you lack control over and obviously the fact of how people judge it, but it's not your fault. Try not to take it out on yourself. You deserve compassion and kindness, and that's definitely something you need from yourself when other people won't take into account how you feel.

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Re: Nightmare maybe? - October 11th 2018, 04:33 AM

Thank you, you guys for the replies and advice.

I talk to my therapist today and explained what was going on and how the sheets were when i woke up and wet the bed. This isn't the first time I have told her about this. She doesn't think it is nightmares. She is actually concerned that it could be a seizure since it's happened twice since we've know each other, and I've voiced my concerns before. She asked me if I bit my tongue and I said no, to when I wet the bed, but on either Sunday, or Monday morning I woke up and my tongue hurt and was sore and I had no clue why, and had like bumps or teeth impressions in it.

She was messaging with my Psychiatrist and she said it could be seizes. So my therapist emailed by Dr about her concerns and wanting her to check me out, so I should be hearing back from her sometime tomorrow to see what is going to happen next.

I will keep you guys updated on what is happening with this and if we find out what is causing this.



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Re: Nightmare maybe? - November 8th 2018, 02:45 PM

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