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My boyfriend feels bad - September 11th 2019, 07:20 AM

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I dont know what to do. My boyfriend is feeling sad and having a hard time. I just wanna help him. Remove the pain. Im in pain when he is.
We moved together in May, and things have been great! But now its just hard. I sometimes miss the institution i lived in. Their help and feeling safe.
Dont get me wrong - i love living with my boyfriend. Its just hard right now.





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Re: My boyfriend feels bad - September 11th 2019, 07:54 PM

Hey Lucy,

Sorry to hear that your boyfriend is feeling bad and having a hard time. It's lovely that you want to help him- I'm sure he appreciates your care and kindness!

Unfortunately, as much as we would love to, we can't take away someone's pain. But we can be there for our loved ones, even if it's just listening to how they feel, validating their feelings, providing reassurance and encouraging them to use healthy ways to look after themselves and recover from their low point. You can also try asking your boyfriend if there is anything specifically that you can do to help him at this time.


It makes sense that with your boyfriend feeling in pain, you would feel that pain too. Helping someone who struggles with their mental health can also take it's toll on you. You'll need to make sure that you have some boundaries in place e.g. that your boyfriend is also seeking out professional help and isn't relying solely on you.

Even though it's lovely moving in with your boyfriend, it sounds like you miss the support from the institution that you were in. What other support do you have in your life? It's always good to make sure that you have your own support system, more so if your boyfriend is struggling with his own mental health and can't be there for you right now. At the very least, you have TeenHelp


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Re: My boyfriend feels bad - September 13th 2019, 08:18 AM

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Re: My boyfriend feels bad - September 15th 2019, 07:53 AM

Hi there,

I'm sorry to hear that your boyfriend isn't in a good place at the moment. It is natural to want to take the pain away from those we love and care about and it definitely sounds like you are a very caring and loving person.

As Celyn mentioned, is there someone that you both can talk to about how you're feeling? It may be difficult at first, but it might help.

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Re: My boyfriend feels bad - September 16th 2019, 03:15 PM

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Hi there,

I'm sorry to hear that your boyfriend isn't in a good place at the moment. It is natural to want to take the pain away from those we love and care about and it definitely sounds like you are a very caring and loving person.

As Celyn mentioned, is there someone that you both can talk to about how you're feeling? It may be difficult at first, but it might help.

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Thanks for your reply <3

I've tried to help him, and he feels a bit better. I'm not in a good place either, but we support and helps each other.





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Re: My boyfriend feels bad - September 17th 2019, 06:04 PM

Hi there, I'm glad you were able to help him; but it's important to take care of yourself as well! Is there anyone you can reach out to, besides your boyfriend, for support? Do you have a licensed medical professional you could speak to? I know you mentioned you were in a hospital for some time, and just because you are no longer there does not mean you shouldn't continue to receive support.

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