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talking to myself - August 25th 2009, 07:37 AM

I'm just not sure how much and to what degree of complexity this is healthy. When I first started doing it, I would pretend to be someone else who would answer my questions or I could just talk to. But then I started to make up identities for the people I was pretending to be. And then last year I started talking to myself in a mean way, kinda tearing myself down. And I don't know if everyone does this or if it's just me but I could use some advice.


people like you and me, it's our job to care it's all we know it's what we were created to do. Even if the people we care about weren't real or didn't know us, we just keep on caring anyway. That way we make sure a little piece of that person lingers on watching over us, like the heroes in our dreams like the stars in the sky.
   
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Re: talking to myself - August 25th 2009, 11:33 AM

Hey there lido,

I would say talking to yourself is healthy. It is a chance for your mind to 'debate' things with out and trying to sort out some stuff that may be going on in your life. Sometimes if you are not getting enough social attention you might start to talk to yourself, but once again that is a natural thing to do.

As for the making up identities, so long as you are 'okay' with that, then it's completely fine, right? Rather than it being some voice in your head, or some unknown thing talking to you, your body may want to 'put a name to it' or so to speak which is also a natural human instinct.

There are many reasons why you might 'tear yourself down' as you put it. This is obviously not a good thing, and not okay. I guess in a way it could be considered emotional self harm. If you have a low self esteem, you might put yourself down all the time, as typically seen in those suffering from depression, (Note: I am not diagnosing you with depression). I think you are basically putting yourself down, but through a different form.

There are many ways you can get help to stop this. I think you should speak to a doctor, or find a counselor who would be able to stop the negative issues here. Although if you are happy to talk to yourself in a healthy way, then don't let anybody else stop you



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Re: talking to myself - August 26th 2009, 01:23 AM

hey! so i do that all the time too (talking to myself and having convos with myself) and its shown to be a sign of intellegance!! but tearing yourself down is a different case i guess. i guess being a bully to yourself is a common sign of self esteeme or confidence problems. thats okay and totally normal for teens though, and many people dont realize that. just know you are not crazy or insane or anything like that, its totally normal!! if you ever need to talk, you can message me or i recomend going to an adult you can trust like a school councler. but just know i totallly do that all the time (including making up identies) and for me its just my imagination growing. a way i deal with it is i write stories with my little characters, they are horribly written stories haha but its a way for me to clear my thoughts and play around with those identies i make up. hope i helped!
   
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Re: talking to myself - August 26th 2009, 07:18 AM

The thing about the whole tearing myself down is that it started cause I would be worried about a conversation and would imagine what would be said in the worst way possible then last year I started to talk in that voice without reason or warning. And alot of the things he says then really hurt too.


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Re: talking to myself - August 30th 2009, 04:15 PM

Hey there lido,

As you've probably already noticed by the above replies, most people do talk to themselves (at least in their head with internal dialogue) at some point or another, so you're not alone with what you're doing or what you're going through. As Adam has said, you may be trying to sort things some things out which is understandable.

It is normal to talk to yourself and it's reasonably healthy, but if you are starting to 'tear yourself down' then I do think it would be beneficial to try and change this so that you're not reinforcing or thinking negative thoughts, because you don't deserve that. Try and remind yourself of all the good qualities you have, every day. If these thoughts are beginning to spiral downwards then maybe it would help you to try and talk to someone about how you're feeling or what you're thinking about, such as a friend or an adult that you're comfortable with.
Another suggestion would be to start keeping a diary and try to get out all of your thoughts and feelings on paper and out of mind? Keeping a diary can be very helpful.

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Re: talking to myself - August 30th 2009, 06:05 PM

Its healthy; its only unhealthy when someone else in your head answers.
I talk to myself sometimes, everyone does, its normal. Sometimes its a way of coping by talking things out with yourself, sometimes its a way of remembering something, and sometimes its just because it happens. No worries.
   
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