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Ugliest Girl Alive - June 27th 2010, 04:36 PM

I have come to the conclusion that I'm the ugliest girl in the world. I can't even leave my house without crying and wanting to hurt myself. I hate everything about myself. Please help me! I can't live like this
   
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Re: Ugliest Girl Alive - June 27th 2010, 04:45 PM

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Nobody is ugly, so to call yourself ugly would be completely wrong. You have self esteem issues. I think it would be great to see a doctor, because its not fair, that your not living your life. Your 16, you deserve to be happy.

If you saw a doctor they could refer you to a therapist whom will help you get your confidence back.

Remember, you will feel better about yourself, it will take time, but you will get there in the end

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Re: Ugliest Girl Alive - June 27th 2010, 04:59 PM

I've been seeing a therapist for 2 years now and I'm on the highest dose of anti-depressants that they can legally give me and I still feel so disgusting and ugly!
   
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Re: Ugliest Girl Alive - June 27th 2010, 05:03 PM

Its not just medication you need though, its all about the right kind of therapy. Have you tried CBT?


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Re: Ugliest Girl Alive - June 27th 2010, 05:08 PM

Hi. (:

What is it that makes you feel you're ugly? I agree that no one in this world is ugly; everyone is beautiful, even if you can't always see it yourself.
   
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Re: Ugliest Girl Alive - June 27th 2010, 05:24 PM

Whats CBT?

I'm fat and my hair is gross and my nose is big and my skin in bad and my teeth are crooked and my spine is crooked and im just nasty!
   
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Re: Ugliest Girl Alive - June 27th 2010, 06:43 PM

Some of the things you mentioned can be really easy to improve. Just washing daily can improve your skin, along with different creams, and things like that. And if you feel like your teeth are crooked, maybe you can visit your dentist, and see what they think? Maybe you could get some braces. You could even get clear ones.

You don't sound nasty at all. I think you just need some help feeling confident about yourself if all. (:
   
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Re: Ugliest Girl Alive - June 28th 2010, 10:11 AM

Have you talked to your therapist about the possibility of you having Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD)? I'm not a doctor but the feelings you're describing fit into the symptoms of BDD. I think you need to tell your therapist how you're feeling and bring up the possibility of BDD if you feel comfortable. Here's a link to information about BDD - http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/bod...sorder/DS00559
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Re: Ugliest Girl Alive - June 28th 2010, 04:28 PM

Yeah I think I will talk to him about it! Thanks for the support guys
   
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Re: Ugliest Girl Alive - June 28th 2010, 09:24 PM

Hi Mallory,

I used to have issues with my hair, and my skin being clear. My hair used to always be greasy no matter how many times I washed it, if that is what you are referring to then try different shampoos. I found clarifying shampoos really helped remove all the build up.

For skin, you are 16, you are bound to have pimples because of your age; some people are incredibly lucky and never have issues, but for the average teen they are going to have anything from the occasional pimple to full blown acne. If it's just pimples then a good oil free face wash is good, if you feel it is more than that then speaking to your doctor is a good plan, they could possibly give you some acne medication.

Your self-esteem won't be fixed by anti-depressants alone, you need to be able to speak to your therapist and work on some strategies to help build your self-esteem and confidence level.

And when you are feeling ugly try listening to this song if you can find it. Here are the lyrics: http://www.6lyrics.com/more_beautifu...onny_diaz.aspx You can also search for the video on youtube. Great song about feeling beautiful.


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Re: Ugliest Girl Alive - June 28th 2010, 10:09 PM

I wish it was pimples haha I actually have perfectly clear skin but I have crows feet and smile lines. I need botox badly!
   
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Re: Ugliest Girl Alive - June 28th 2010, 10:13 PM

As for your skin and teeth as said before wash very well and you can look into getting braces for your teeth if you need them. Payment plans can often be arranged to help with the cost.

As for general confidence, try to set small goals each day or few days. Whenever you reach these goals you can reward yourself by whatever works as a good reward for you or sometimes just knowing you reached the goal can help.
   
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Re: Ugliest Girl Alive - June 29th 2010, 04:54 PM

heres a pic of me so you guys can honestly see how bad I look

http://s138.photobucket.com/albums/q...2.jpg&newest=1
   
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Re: Ugliest Girl Alive - June 29th 2010, 08:12 PM

God, I'd give a million quid to look like that! If you're that worried over how you look, I'd suggest CBT like others have mentioned. To be honest, you're stunningly pretty and shouldn't have anything to worry about - it sounds like you have really low self esteem and need to get yourself some confidence.

I always shop when I'm feeling low - new shoes, new make up, new dresses....
   
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Re: Ugliest Girl Alive - June 29th 2010, 11:52 PM

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heres a pic of me so you guys can honestly see how bad I look

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Seriously?

You look absolutely amazing. If I didn't think that, I would skip by the thread and say nothing, I'm only going to be honest, you look really great. It sounds more like a self-esteem issue more than anything. Has there been anyone in your life putting you down a lot lately? Perhaps try doing some things to help your self confidence, go shopping, talk to friends. Take no notice of negative opinions and appreciate the positive ones. Be proud of who you are.


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Re: Ugliest Girl Alive - June 30th 2010, 12:39 AM

When I saw your picture, my first thought was "Wait--isn't she a model?" Because I could have sworn I've seen you in magazines. You are VERY beautiful!

And, smile lines aren't always a bad thing. They mean you've just smiled a lot, and smiling is always good for you.
   
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Re: Ugliest Girl Alive - June 30th 2010, 02:15 AM

wow really? thanks
   
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Re: Ugliest Girl Alive - June 30th 2010, 02:50 AM

Mallory,

You are absolutely gorgeous! You have nothing to fear. Crows feet and smile lines, that means you must smile a lot! After seeing your picture I think I would say you have self-esteem issues or Body Dysmorphic Disorder BDD Symptoms. Check that out and see what you think. Try talking to your therapist about this, she/he may agree or not, but they would be able to help with that.

Keep smiling, you are beautiful!


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Re: Ugliest Girl Alive - June 30th 2010, 10:32 PM

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me without makeup on
   
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Re: Ugliest Girl Alive - June 30th 2010, 11:23 PM

I highly doubt you're ugly. You're probably really pretty. You just have a low self-esteem and you potray yourself as ugly and come to believe you are ugly because you have convinced yourself of it when you are really not.
Try building yourself up and finding positive things about yourself to be proud of.
   
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Re: Ugliest Girl Alive - June 30th 2010, 11:43 PM

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I flipped through all the pictures. You are beautiful with and withOUT makeup, you have natural beauty.


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Re: Ugliest Girl Alive - July 1st 2010, 01:31 AM

Then you saw the picture with me and the guy? He was the man who rapped me 6 months ago
   
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Re: Ugliest Girl Alive - July 3rd 2010, 10:38 PM

I once used to think the same way. You should tell your therapist about your porblems and the BDD thought given by one of the other posters might be right. But i've always have had self-esteem issues. First thing I did was learn to love myself. I just couldn't see my self as pretty every one else did. I used to even get made fun of because of it. My husband was the one that brought it to me. I might not be super model pretty, (which is truely fine with me), but the thing is beauty will fade away in due time anyway. But that's beyond the point you need to feel better with yourself.


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Re: Ugliest Girl Alive - July 3rd 2010, 10:52 PM

you are beautiful,i saw your picture. wow i can't believe this...
i expected something else but i saw that you are very very very pretty even without make-up.

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Re: Ugliest Girl Alive - July 4th 2010, 01:59 AM

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I have come to the conclusion that I'm the ugliest girl in the world. I can't even leave my house without crying and wanting to hurt myself. I hate everything about myself. Please help me! I can't live like this

no one can be the ugliest in the world trust me. Ur young and in puberty.. your body is changing ur gunna get only prettier
   
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Re: Ugliest Girl Alive - July 4th 2010, 05:20 AM

I used to be just like you, like exactly... and dont worry about your laugh lines and your crows feet... be proud of those lines, because it shows you know how to smile and have fun... They are more beauitful than a flawless face any day... atleast thats what my boyfriend says. You are so georgous, I had BBD bad... i got an eating disorder cuz i thaught i was fat... and now i look at pics of my "fat" pictures and I laugh... cuz i never was... this is the same... get out there and live your life girl, with every day you doubt yourself the opportunities to be happy are slipping away. You are so pretty... you just gotta believe it.

Also I have scoleosis... my spine is slightly bent... and my teeth arent prefectly straight eventhough i had braces... someone actually complimented me on my non-straight teeth once... "I love how your teeth arent perfectly straight...it makes them more perfect" lol... I have acne still and im 19 years old... i've had acne since i was ten lol... currently i have SI joint disfunction where my hip bones dont line up... i have stretch marks from my eating disorder... and cellulite lol... and I love myself for it... your percieved flaws are really what make you special you see... I think your nose is so cute... mine is swoopie when i turn to the side lol... my friends always liked to call it a ski slope...you see the people that love you will love you more for your flaws, probably more than for your perfections lol...


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Re: Ugliest Girl Alive - July 4th 2010, 05:55 AM

Just have to say, you are GORGEOUS in every way. Try to think about the things you love about yourself, rather than stupid little details that no one else can see.


   
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Re: Ugliest Girl Alive - July 4th 2010, 08:34 PM

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Re: Ugliest Girl Alive - July 11th 2010, 01:17 AM

I wouldn't write this unless it were true- I'd just read through the thread and then move on- but I'm stunned by how pretty you are, especially compared with your self-image. You. are. gorgeous. Best of luck with sorting through the self-esteem issue. As others mentioned, therapy can be really helpful for some people (though not everyone).
   
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