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What's wrong with me? - February 13th 2011, 03:11 PM

For the past few months I've been insanely lonely thanks to being unemployed and whatever. Thing is me and my friends/old friends sometimes make plans but I can never be bothered to actually do them :| I complain I'm lonely but I won't do anything to stop it.

I've been meaning to go to the park with my friend and son, meet up with a friend from school, go to the cinema with other friends and meet up with someone I know online but I can't be bothered :|

I want a social life but can't be bothered with everything that comes with it :/ Idk if I blame depression. Is anyone else here similar?


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Re: What's wrong with me? - February 13th 2011, 03:23 PM

I have been there-You are not alone!

What I had to do was in order for my loneliness to change...I had to make the effort. I found that at first it seemed like a huge effort to get dressed and go out but what I soon found was the more of that effort I made, the better I felt. I also found that it seemed like while I was "getting ready" to go out...my mind was saying "why bother?" but then when I was with my friends or at the movies...I really enjoyed it!

The more you talk yourself out of doing things...the harder it gets. BUT, the more you "just do it"...the easier it gets. Being social is important and helps boost your own energy. Being isolated and alone only makes things worse.

So, maybe set a goal for yourself this week to make an honest effort to "get out of the house.." and spend time with some friends...you just may be surprised at how much this will brighten your spirits...

Just remember...in order for anything to change (or become different)...YOU have to make the effort...it can't happen on its own...the more you do it, the easier it becomes...(as with anything you wish to change..)

I hope this helped...


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Re: What's wrong with me? - February 13th 2011, 03:48 PM

Thank you Cantina <3 My friend from school actually Facebook messaged me yesterday saying we should meet up, I said yes but I knew I probably wouldn't get around to doing it.

I'll probably ask her for her number now and try and do it sometime in the week

Forcing myself will probably be the hard thing though :/ eh.


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Re: What's wrong with me? - February 13th 2011, 04:33 PM

I'm quite similar, I think. I want to go out and do stuff with mates. But to be honest, I just can't be bothered. Even if plans are made, sometimes I'll bottle out last minute, which I feel terrible about :/

I agree a lot with Cantina; if I 'just do it', and don't think about it too much, and just get it in my head that I'm going out and that's it, then I will find it a lot easier. I have a tendancy to sit and talk myself out of things, and some times it's to do with my anxiety or me feeling seriously unhappy, but either way in the end you just need to do it and have fun :P In the end I've found that I do usually enjoy myself and I come home happier than if I'd not gone at all.

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