I think I know why I have such low confidence :/

[Rainbow Dash]

I think I've figured out the main reason. It's because of my father. He over-complicates every little thing. When I was a child and would try and do something myself (like plug my Nintendo 64 into the TV) he would make me move and do it himself because it's "too complicated" or a "pain in the ass" :/ I just used to make my dad do everything because in my head life was insanely complicated.

It's the same today. If there are any forms I need to fill in he will do it for me because "they're too complicated" or "I'll mess them up"

When I go to appointments with him he barely lets me speak.

I figured it out last night. He's useless with computers and was going through hell and back trying to figure out how to copy an image on to MS Paint (-____-) and was saying it's a "pain in the ass" I done it in a matter of seconds.

I don't know if me figuring this out is a good thing or bad thing. I now know life isn't insanely complicated but I still don't think I can do a lot because of him.

[Kate*]

Hey Ceilidh, I know what you mean. I figured out a long time ago that my dad had a lot to do with my confidence issues as well. I eventually realized that any step you can make in understanding yourself is a good thing, okay that was cheesy, but oh well. Once you understand why you do something or think a certain way you can start to work on undoing it. Just because your dad doesn't believe you can do something doesn't mean you can't. And if you try to do something on your own and you mess up it's okay, mistakes are part of being human and it's how you learn to do things for yourself. If you hate going to appointments with him and it's a situation where he doesn't have to go with you, then you can go by yourself and you won't have to deal with him. Maybe start with simple things that you think you can handle and then have him check to see that you've done them right if necessary. I understand about the forms though, I have to ask my mom a lot which line things go on just because I can't tell because of how the form is made and yes I've messed them up before.

[Rainbow Dash]

I tried to fill in some forms once before but didn't know my national insurance number (because he has it just like he has everything else to do with stuff like that) When I asked him where it was he just grabbed the forms off me and done it himself

Thing is I live in the middle of nowhere. When I have appointments the only way I can get there is if he drives me (I can't drive) :/ so when he takes me there he comes in with me :/

[PSY]

Don't wait until you have something that needs to be taken care of (ex. a form). Instead, make a list of things you'd like to have/know, and give that list to your father. When he asks why you need to have/know those things, say it's because you will need them for future reference. He can't take control and fill out forms that don't exist yet, but you will be able to get that information now and then take charge later on without having to go to your father.

[alexander canada]

Ya my parents always babied me so wenever there is a all coment about me that is bad i get all sad and i lose a lot of confidqnce, it is becoming a problem latly because my dad apperantly decided to stop babbying me and he starts to yell at me for a bunch of differant reasons. like the other day he told me to make the cookies long story short i ended up getting yeld at for something i had asked my dad to do . another thing is is that i dont think that i am the son that he wanted, and my the rest of my family is all athlwtic and stuff so it kind of get me down and stuff.
So dont worry i know how you feel, its hard but in times like these you have to remember all the good things and memories in life

[leavemealone]

I actually think the reason that he does this to you is because he wants you to succeed in life and he doesn't want you to screw up like he believes he has done in his life. Talk to him and try to sort this out