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Do you ever feel like your ED isn't "real" - October 20th 2014, 06:46 PM

Because thats my life. I feel like I'm a liar to say that I have an ED. I constantly hate myself, don't get me wrong, but sometimes there is moment where, just for a second, I look in the mirror and see beauty. This makes me feel like someone with a real ED wouldn't do that. Also, most of the time when I try to lose weight, I only do these things for a few days before I fail. A person with a real ED wouldn't fail. I would never say this to someone else with an ED, but yet I say it to myself. But, I say that I have an ED, because, most of the time I dislike what I see. I feel guilty every time I eat. These thoughts are always there, even if I don't act on them. Anyone else get where I'm coming from?
   
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Re: Do you ever feel like your ED isn't "real" - October 20th 2014, 07:30 PM

I get where you're coming from.

There's a stigma that makes people think they have to look a certain way to have an eating disorder but that isn't true. You can be any weight and still have one. I personally think that eating disorders are more psychological than they are physical.

Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD) is when you see part of your body a certain way but it doesn't actually look like that - it's just what you're able to see. I believe that occasionally there can be some clarity through it and you're likely to find yourself beautiful the way you are when you aren't influenced by BDD.


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Re: Do you ever feel like your ED isn't "real" - October 20th 2014, 11:29 PM

Like Cassie said

Most people think you have to look a certain way in order to have an eating disorder but that is not true at all. I get where you are coming from and it's hard when you have an eating disorder. I would honestly talk to a therapist about this they can help you a lot.


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Re: Do you ever feel like your ED isn't "real" - October 21st 2014, 03:03 AM

Yeah, I always feel like, not only do I not look thin, I'm actually overweight (just barely enough to technically fit into the obese category) and it drives me insane.
   
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Re: Do you ever feel like your ED isn't "real" - October 21st 2014, 06:11 AM

yeah I SH and I totally know that problem too.
Once someone helped met some facts straight (He told me that "just a little every month orso" wasn't normal either.) though and that helps.
Because my logic keeps me a little in check at least.
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Re: Do you ever feel like your ED isn't "real" - October 21st 2014, 03:25 PM

I, too, feel like that my "eating disorder" isn't real. I haven't been officially diagnosed with an eating disorder, but I honestly think that I do suffer from some type of eating disorder.

There is some sort of stigma behind eating disorders and that you have to look a certain way in order to have an eating disorder. This stigma isn't true. Anyone can have an eating disorder. You don't have to look a certain way. Eating disorders are more of a psychological thing than a physical thing.




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Re: Do you ever feel like your ED isn't "real" - October 21st 2014, 05:44 PM

Yeah, its good to know that I'm not alone in feeling this way
   
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Re: Do you ever feel like your ED isn't "real" - October 21st 2014, 09:45 PM

Thin people can be binge eaters.
Obese people can be bulimics.

Eating disorders can happen to people of any age and weight. I suggest you look into it to learn more about what defines an eating disorder.

Now, to answer your question, I feel sometimes my BED isn't real. People say I love food, I eat all kinds of rubbish. But it's psychological, like others have said, not physical. But at the same time, my brain shouts insults at me and I restrict.
   
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Re: Do you ever feel like your ED isn't "real" - October 24th 2014, 08:53 PM

Hey there,

There is a stereotype surrounding ED's that you have to look a certain way in order to suffer from one. People with eating disoders have to be thin. I am reminded of this fact time and time again and it makes the fact that I have been diagnosed with an eating disordered really hard because I am not the stereotypical ED patient.

Every day I struggle with believing that my ED is real and it is made harder by the fact that the few people in my life who know, mainly my dad, don't really acknowledge it. My dad basically believes that I am a binge eater or emotional eater but he doesn't acknowledge that I purge and restrict. Having someone explicitly ignore one aspect of my ED but acknowledge the other aspect is very triggering.

The fact is that ED's don't discriminate. You shouldn't let what the stereotypical picture of an ED is discourage you from recognizing any disordered habits that you might have and discourage you from getting help from them. If you have disordered eating or suspect that you have an eating disorder you should seek out counseling.

I hope that this helped in some way and if you need anything please feel free to message me.


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