How to tell someone...

[lost_chil]

I admit... I can't do this... I had a bowl of cereal, small, this morning... And I can barely keep it down anymore... I need help... But how do I tell someone? Who do I tell? We have a health nurse/support/counsulor type person here who I feel I can talk to. Should I tell them about all this...? I need help, and I am just getting worse and worse... I am really trying not to purge, actually, it's almost at the point where I don't have to purge, it's almost automatic... I am now scared to eat, ni fear of purging... And for the obvious reason... Anyways... Any advice as to whom I should tell and how would be extreamly appriciated... Thanks... sorry for posting so much...

[Tiny_93]

Telling the nurse will be a start. She/he could help you to tell your friends and family, and most probably give you some better advice than us. You don't have to be alone in this, and the nurse could help you to get better

Though I'm no expert - none of us are - I know how hard it can be, having been through both anorexia and bulimia. But you've taken the first biggest step in asking for help. And I'm immensly proud of you for doing that. You sound like a strong person. So do go speak to that nurse!

Hope this helps. PM me any time

[~CourageousSurvivor~]

I think telling the nurse would be a great idea. I know it will be scary but they are there to help you. The nurse should be able to direct you one where to go and what not.

Don't let the ED keep you from speaking up. The thing to remember is that ED's feed off of the fact that we keep things secret. Opening up and letting people know about the struggle is one of the first steps to letting go of the ED.

If you ever need to chat feel free to pm me.

Best of luck,

Jenna

[Nina Twin]

Hey Alice,
I'm afraid it's not going to be easy no matter who you tell, but I'm glad that you realize you need to tell someone - it shows that you recognize the importance and that you want to respect yourself more.
It would be great to start with the school counselor. He or she could help you tell your parents soon and you could get set up with a counselor outside of school. That way you could get the tools that you need to get better - and it would definitely be a good thing to have all the support you can get.
Just remember, you don't deserve this pain. You need to start getting better. Life is short and you need to take care of yourself. Life should not be measured by how far we fall, but how high we can climb.

[Casey.]

Hey Alice,

I agree with the girls above me. Tell your school counselor, they can help you either tell your parents, or to get help before this gets worse. Because it can get worse. Right now, you are at the early stages, and it's good that it has you worried, because that means you know it's unhealthy, and you know you don't need to treat yourself like that. A lot of people don't realize that until they are very deep into it. It's not going to be easy, but you can do this.Stay strong.

[lost_chil]

Alright... I was not able to talk to the nurse at my school... And now school is over for a week... I need help on what to do... I don't know what I can do to help myself at this point in time...I am going an apple in the morning, and a slice of bread at night... Thats it... I am drinking water, and nothing but. Not as much as I need mind you, but just enough to get past... And was just rejected by my friend... I asked for help and she said "Alice, be happy" and thats it...I don't know what to do... I am going not even a meal a day now... I am sleeping more then I should... And I cna't keep saying "I'm not hungry" "I don't feel well" etc... They are getting suspocious... but if I eat any more, I will purge... The only friend I have told who hsan't shot me down is not someone who can really help, because he is dealing with drugs, etc... So I need another way to get help... And I am NOT telling my parents or family.

[lost_chil]

... I want this thread deleted please. I am no longer seeking help. Someone please delete this.

[Jen]

Hi Alice,

I hope everything is okay--it seems kind of drastic for you to suddenly not be asking for help. Keep reaching out whenever you need it, okay? We are here for you, and it's important to keep finding people to talk to (like the nurse when you get back to school). I know how hard of a road recovery can be, but I promise you...it's worth it to keep going. Let me know if you ever want to talk.

I'll go ahead and close this now, at your request.

Jen