She's coming back o.O

[NyanNyan]

Urgh my friend who started my eating disorder is coming back today and shes going to be really mad because I lost a lot of weight over the summer. I haven't told her yet that it was because of her teasing that I got anorexia but I know it's going to spill out when I see her. What should I do? Is there anything I can do without making her hate me?

[belle.darcy]

(just read your other post)

First of all, this friend of yours isn't a real friend, you see that? She teased you, she was unkind and obviously she bullied you into thinking you were fat.
I really think you should not care what she thinks. But I believe you should be kinder to your body. Anorexia is a deadly desease, you know that, and nobody has ever gained anything from starving themselves to death.

Let me tell you about a problem I have: when I was your age, I was quite skinny. Growing up, I started putting on weight. My father would tease me on every occasion and I woul consider it normal - he bullies my mother even worse. For years now I think I am too fat while others around me try to cnovince me I look totally ok. But I don't feel ok. Sometimes I wish I was anorexic. You see, my family hardly ever sees me eating. I try to avoid eating with them because it makes me feel fat. But I still eat. And not healthy enough. And I still haven't lost the fight. The fight that started when my father told me I was fat.

What I want to say with that? If you want to do something, do it for yourself alone. Stop listening to this friend of yours and think what you want to look like in 10, in 20 years. Eat. Eat healthy and try to keep the shape you are now. You are obviously skinny enough. Don't make the mistake of starving yourself - it doesn't get better. Indeed, it only gets worse.

Good luck and keep us posted!

[Heartlines.]

If your friend teases you and what not, then she doesn't sound like a real friend to me. You have every right to confront her about this issue, and I advise you do so. Tell her how all that made you feel. What it made you want to do. But don't blame her for your eating issues. That isn't fair. You make your own decisions. We all do. You chose to start the disordered eating. While I understand she drove you to an eating disorder, an eating disorder can almost always be controlled in the beginning. I hope I don't sound mean, because that is not at all my intentions. All in all, you do have a right to be mad at her. And if I were you, I wouldn't hesitate to confront her. She needs to know what that did to you. Take care.