Im not THAT skinny!

[rosaleah]

Sorry if this doesnt belong here i just dont know where else it would fit

So for a while i had a lack of appitiete. And i noticed when this happened so i told me teacher (who promised not to tell). And then i tried to gain my appitiet back up again. and my teacher made sure i ate everyday at lunch. Along that time i lost weight (not a whole lot) that i couldnt gain back even when i was eating normal again.

I went through another 'bump' like that again a few weeks ago again. And lost another few pounds. but i think that i only go through these bumps when i am sickish. But i cant gain the weight back when i start eating normal again.
During the last 'bump' I lost my appitiete more and couldnt hold one of my meals down. but that was also due to being sick.

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Now after getting a little bit thinner everybody thinks that im anorexic whenever i decide to skip a McFlurry. Or bulimic when im in the washroom too long. I do eat healthy and sometimes quite a bit. Also i only couldnt hold my food down when im sick. But my family keeps telling me i need to gain weight (and one of my sister is telling me to eat all fatty and sugary foods). (i am on the BORDER of being underweight but still normal) I AM trying pretty hard, but i cant. I am very happy with the way i look right now, and i dont want to change that.

I tell them that i am not anorexic or bulimic or an over exerciser but i doesnt work..... they never believe me. And im happy with the way i look so i dont want to gain weight (or lose weight) i just really want my family to accept me.

Should i try to gain muscle instead of fat? because i cant seem to gain weight from eating.

[Revolution]

You need to talk to your family and tell them that you do not have a problem with your weight, and that it is just that you have been sick lately. You do not have an eating disorder just because of occasional lost of appetite, and they need to realize it.
However, are you sure that those are the reasons you're not eating? I seem to remember you posting in this forum before (if you don't mind me asking.)

[blumemusik♫]

If you're happy with the way you look, and you're not underweight, then there's no problem! Tell all these people that you're comfortable with how you look, AND you're a healthy weight, and you're trying to GAIN weight!

However, I can't help noticing you've posted here several times before, commenting on how you have an eating disorder, and how your sisters found out. If you're overcoming this disorder now, then that's great! But it might help if you have someone (either on this site, or in person,) to support you through it, because sometimes it is much harder to gain weight than lose it.

I hope thigns get better for you soon!<3

[rosaleah]

yes before i thought that i may have an eating disorder. And because a few days i thought that i was fat. |But those were days where i actually noticed i had strep throat and a cold. So that is probably the reason why i had a lack of apitite those times.

[emma01]

At first I was going to say its rude of your friends to just call you anorexic or bulimic whenever you skip a mcflurry etc, BUT I now note that you have had an eating disorder before. My main concern is now that you haven't really recovered, and maybe you are not a correct weight, and maybe have a distorted view of what healthy eating is? Now correct me if I am wrong.
Also, there is a huge difference between just losing your appetite, and having an eating disorder! So I am not sure quite what you mean by your second post, you were never diagnosed with an eating disorder? I don't know - but you would know if you had an actual eating disorder, and if you did, that would cause great concern from your friends if you were not fully recovered.

You should just talk to your parents, get support, its not easy to just recover like that. It takes time and there will be good/bad days.

[rosaleah]

i dont have an underweight BMI. im in the normal range. Same with body fat.

And yeah i was never diagnosed with an eating disorder.

I think i eat healthy because i eat about the same amount as my family and usually more than my friends.
But sometimes i will just skip the useless snacks like icecream and chocolate because they have no nutritional value and because im not hungry for them.

[FriendZoneMayor]

You're just fine the way you are, but if it's really bothering you, try working out and building up muscle. it's much healthier than trying to fatten yourself up.