I don't know what to do

[lovatoac]

My mom makes me feel guilty everytime I eat. I don't think she realizes what she's doing to me sometimes. She is obsessed with calories and freaks out at me if I have more than a serving of anything. She always asks "are you sure that's you want to do that?" before I eat. It's getting to the point where I just want to throw it all up. I want to eat a lot in front of her to annoy her and then go in the bathroom and puke. I don't know what to do. I just ate popcorn and got in a huge argument with her over it. I feel like puking it up is the only solution. Please help!

Also, I don't know if it has anything to do with it, but I am a recovering cutter and my mom knows that.

[Choose]

Hmm... Perhaps it is not a bad thing for her to be concerned about such things (watching for your health and well-being), but if she is OVERLY concerned, that may not be a good thing. Have you voiced how you feel about her comments before? It's probably not a good idea to eat a lot and end up purging just to spite her as that could lead to a perpetuation of such behavior. You should be able to use other, safer, and more efficient outlets than that to OPEN those lines of communication.

[aloharocker]

My parents used to do the same thing to me, until I stopped eating because of it. This is not what I recommend you do. Purging is not the answer either.

Try telling her how it makes you feel. If that doesn't work, find out, from your doctor, how many calories you should be eating per day. That way you can "prove" you can eat what you want if it fits in your caloric budget for the day.

Don't attempt any type of diet change without the supervision of a doctor. Purging is super dangerous, and is definitely not the way to help with your situation.

PM if you want to talk more.

[Heartlines.]

Watching your weight, and eating healthy is NOT bad thing. Counting calories and exercising isn't a bad thing either. But throwing up what your eat is. And it's not the answer, as it's highly addictive and can really affect your health in a lot of ways. I think you need to talk to your mom. Tell her that her being so hard on you is hurting you more than helping you. Tell her that the comments she makes is making you feel bad and is hurting you. I like the idea of going to a doctor and asking what the right amount of calories for your body is and how much exercise you should be getting. They know more about dieting than you and your mother. Plus, I would rather you talk to them then have your eating habits turn into an eating disorder.

I hope this helped.
Take care,
-Lyndsee