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My Brother - October 29th 2012, 04:49 AM

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My younger brother is an addict of a lot of different drugs but lately it's gotten worse. He's now very addicted to Crystal Meth. He recently got out of a drug rehab center in Mexico (we live in the USA) he almost immediately relapsed. He tried so hard to stay sober but he couldn't, he wanted to get sober and come home but now he's 2000 miles away and I don't know how to help him. I'm at a lost, he's my little brother and I'm supposed to protect him and I didn't. It was my job to look after him, especially after our mommy died. I failed him and her. What do I do?


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Re: My Brother - November 5th 2012, 02:36 AM

Considering no one else has posted, I'll try to comfort you.

Well how would it be your fault? It's your sibling at the end of the day you can't control what he does, it's his life. Just get in contact with him and explain why he should stop now as he hasn't long got out of rehab. Explain he's ruining his own life.

One thing i do know is that your mother would be a lot more proud of you for trying to help your brother then anyone else in the world, she's looking down on you thinking what a great daughter.
   
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Re: My Brother - November 5th 2012, 02:58 AM

Oh my gosh I just teared up. This reminded me of my best friends story, his younger brother went through the same thing. Im sorry you have to deal with this. I saw the number it did on my best friend. I think you need to do what my friend did and step back and let him face the consequences for his actions. Still love and support him but he needs to learn and struggle for a little while but still knowing that you love him, but dont be afraid to let him know how much it tears you up inside. He needs some tough love and definitely some help. I hope this helped.
   
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Re: My Brother - November 5th 2012, 04:14 PM

You didn’t fail. It is not your job to look after your brother; it is your job to love him. You can’t force someone to do what you want them to do, or even what is best for him. He has to make his own life choices and that is something you are going to have to come to terms with. I know it is in no way an easy task, but, you can’t spend the rest of your life sad that your brother made certain choices. That’s no way to live a life.

Overcoming a family member who is an addict is extremely hard and living everyday with that weight on you can severely hurt you and your life. I highly suggest you seek out some support. Al-Anon is a support group for people who have family members that drink, but they also work with those who have family members addicted to all kinds of other drugs. Being around those who understand will help you a lot. It’s pretty common, anywhere you can find AA meetings you can find Al-Anon meetings. It might not be for you, I tried it and it wasn’t for me, but I have never met so many people who understood what I was going through like I did there and I learned some really valuable things.




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Re: My Brother - November 5th 2012, 06:04 PM

Thank you, Reece, Melissa, and Lizzie for replying. It really did make me fell better. And Lizzie, I have several family members that are addicts so I have thought about going to Al-Anon before I just never got the chance to go, but I think that I may try it out.


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