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Question Shall I continue giving my brother alcohol? - February 27th 2013, 10:30 AM

People told me I shouldn't let him do it, but I tell them I started drinking when I was the same age and there's nothing wrong with me. My grandfather also started drinking when he was a kid and he's now 89 and still goes for a walk to a pub, gets wasted and returns home with no problems. We're both perfectly healthy and there's nothing wrong with us. I'm doing this to make my brother a real man. I'm doing this for him because I want him to be a tough guy like me. Not some sissy!
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Re: Shall I continue giving my brother alcohol? - February 27th 2013, 03:30 PM

Drinking alcohol does not make some a "real man".

If your brother wants to drink then leave him to get it on his own because if he's under the legal age and you're buying it for him then you're breaking the law.


   
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Re: Shall I continue giving my brother alcohol? - February 27th 2013, 05:04 PM

It depends what age your brother is. I started drinking myself at 15 but I would really only have been comfortable getting my little brother drink when he was the latter half of 16 and 17. And even then I mightn't get him that much. I know you want him to be a man, etc, but remember it's on your head if anything bad happens to him as it is illegal to buy drink for minors. You need to know he's being responsible with it. Like I said it really depends on the age as you didn't mention it.


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Re: Shall I continue giving my brother alcohol? - February 27th 2013, 05:14 PM

He's 6. Our parents don't know, but grandpa does
I started drinking when I was 6 as well and it is about time for him.
What can possibly get wrong?
Some people tell me I should better stop, that they'll tell my parents...
Shall I beat them up? No one threatens me or tells me what am I supposed to do with my brother!
He's mine and I have right to teach him all the stuff I know.
I only wonder if I should've given him tobacco before because it's supposed to be first.
   
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Re: Shall I continue giving my brother alcohol? - February 27th 2013, 06:08 PM

Ok, have lost a little faith in the genuinity of this post now, but no, six is too young. Children's brains are still developing at that age. At least wait until he hits puberty before the corruption begins!


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Re: Shall I continue giving my brother alcohol? - February 27th 2013, 06:08 PM

I wouldn't give a young kid alcohol.
   
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Re: Shall I continue giving my brother alcohol? - February 27th 2013, 06:15 PM

I know you. You're the same one who made a post about bullying your friend because he is "weak" and prank called a new girl for "for looking like a zombie". Two things that I find completely unacceptable. Six years old is way too young, but it just seems like you're fooling around and you know the answer to that and you won't even care. No, he won't be a "real man". I feel bad for your brother. I really do.
   
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Re: Shall I continue giving my brother alcohol? - March 2nd 2013, 06:11 AM

You're kidding right? Giving a six year old alcohol is absurd.


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Re: Shall I continue giving my brother alcohol? - March 2nd 2013, 02:22 PM

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He's 6. Our parents don't know, but grandpa does
I started drinking when I was 6 as well and it is about time for him.
What can possibly get wrong?
Some people tell me I should better stop, that they'll tell my parents...
Shall I beat them up? No one threatens me or tells me what am I supposed to do with my brother!
He's mine and I have right to teach him all the stuff I know.
I only wonder if I should've given him tobacco before because it's supposed to be first.
Sadly, this is not the first time I have heard of someone giving a child alcohol, or any drug for that matter.

You are eighteen years old, which means, you don't know if your body has been affected by the alcohol yet, you could have a heart attack in ten years because you have been drinking for the last two decades. So I don't think you are out of the woods just yet on that one.

And even if you and your grandpa survived drinking at a young age, it does NOT guarantee that he will. Each person is different and when it comes to children and drugs, you just never know whats going to happen. What if something awful happened to him? It would be your responsibly for giving it to him in the first place. Could you ever be truly happy again knowing that you allowed that to happen, that you could have stopped it. You do also realize that its illegal and you would probably go to jail for a very long time? At the very minimum that should scare you.

Being an older brother is not about giving him things that his parents wont, its about being a role model and teaching him what it means to be a good person. If this is what he thinks is "cool" what else will he do? Where does it stop?

Giving him alcohol is not helping him, its hurting him. Plain and simple.




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Re: Shall I continue giving my brother alcohol? - March 3rd 2013, 04:58 PM

You people don't understand me. I'm trying to make him tougher, because we live in politically unstable area. What if war happens again? I couldn't fight knowing he's not strong and prepared for this war. I survived a war and I know what it's like. You must be prepared to drink your own urine if needed.
I won't let him become [edit] someone [edit] who can't take care of himself.
I agree he's too young, but you can never know here...

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Re: Shall I continue giving my brother alcohol? - March 3rd 2013, 07:23 PM

Sorry, alcohol's going to HELP in a politically unstable area?

Look, I'm sorry, but everyone else has explained anyway, I'm not going to try making any points to back up my advice here:

Just don't give your six year old brother alcohol.

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Re: Shall I continue giving my brother alcohol? - March 3rd 2013, 08:26 PM

What? How would drinking alcohol make him tougher or prepare him for war? There's no logic behind that.

The bottom line here is that he shouldn't be drinking alcohol. He's six? When I saw that you were giving your younger brother alcohol, I presumed he would be at least 13 or 14. But six?! That's unbelievable! STAHP.
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Re: Shall I continue giving my brother alcohol? - March 3rd 2013, 11:10 PM

Everyone else has said a lot of good points I agree with so I just wanna say... Please don't give your 6 year old brother alcohol. That could really mess him up later in life. Brothers are supposed to be there for each other and help each other get away from addictions or whatnot, like alcohol, not try and get him addicted. Alcohol can really take over your life.

Alcohol does not make anyone a real man. Plus, he's a child! He doesn't need to be a man. Do you think he'll be a real man later in life when he's dependent on something such as alcohol and can't cope without it? No.

Please stop.
As he grows he needs to learn how to cope, how to get by in life without being under influence. Stop while you can.
   
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Re: Shall I continue giving my brother alcohol? - March 4th 2013, 12:18 AM

Drinking alcohol does NOT prepare anyone for anything, especially a six year old boy! Please stop before something terrible happens. The people telling you to not give him alcohol are right.
You want to be a good brother?
Don't give him alcohol.


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Re: Shall I continue giving my brother alcohol? - March 4th 2013, 05:35 PM

What do you know?
Do you know how horrible war is for little children? I survived it and the key to stay alive is to be prepared for everything.
I was hiding in a wine basement while the enemy soldiers were searching the house. My mother was pregnant and in concentration camp, my father,grandfathers and uncles were fighting on the other side of the country.
Like I said... I was trapped and I could only drink wine in order to survive.
If my grandpa didn't get me used to alcohol, I wouldn't survive. I was there for 5 days and I was only drinking wine and eating some rice I found. I was later rescued when town was liberated from that scum.
I was only 6 then!
You never experienced a war and you don't know what you must be prepared to in order to survive.
I'm not only teaching him to drink alcohol, I also teach him some basics of combat, how to shoot and all that...
He's my brother and I want him to be strong and ready!
   
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Re: Shall I continue giving my brother alcohol? - March 4th 2013, 07:20 PM

Naw.. Give him milk, it makes his bones strong!
My dad drank a lot when he was young from his dad and got addicted. That and smoking. He was addicted to smoking by the time he was 14. Really 6 is too young. If there was a war he wouldn't be fighting, people would fight to keep him safe, and either way alcohol would not help at all.


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Re: Shall I continue giving my brother alcohol? - March 4th 2013, 10:33 PM

My uncle started drinking at twelve. Got addicted. Started other drugs. Involved himself in crime incidents. Got hep c and was told he would die if he drank again. Started drinking again. Ended up on life support. Went through treatment. Still drinking. Got caught stealing alcohol. And now has to do treatment again.

But I left out a lot. I left out how he keeps us up at night because we don't know whether he will wake up alive or not. Or how about him falling through a glass coffee table and got cuts and a concussion.

All because he started drinking at 12.


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Re: Shall I continue giving my brother alcohol? - March 5th 2013, 07:37 AM

You would be breaking some serious laws if Serbia (many countries for that matter...) was in a state of war. You are a cowardly, it shows in all your posts.
   
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You would be breaking some serious laws if Serbia (many countries for that matter...) was in a state of war. You are a cowardly, it shows in all your posts.
You call me a coward??
I've suffered a lot in my life and I have never shed a tear!!!
I was abandoned and left do die, but I survived!!!
You most are most probably one of the internet warriors who act like they posses all knowledge of this world, but if war ever happened there in Australia (or anywhere else), people like you would die first!
I prepare my brother for worst possible situations. I teach him how to fight, use a rifle, a knife.
I want him to grow into a person who can take care of himself.
Not some fat nerd who hides behind monitor and calls people who survived that chaos cowards.
My previous posts were about my friends and a little prank that has gone wrong.
You people in the west are too sensitive. Just like that emo girl we pranked.

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Naw.. Give him milk, it makes his bones strong!
My dad drank a lot when he was young from his dad and got addicted. That and smoking. He was addicted to smoking by the time he was 14. Really 6 is too young. If there was a war he wouldn't be fighting, people would fight to keep him safe, and either way alcohol would not help at all.
I give him milk everyday. He will be as tall as me one day

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Re: Shall I continue giving my brother alcohol? - March 6th 2013, 01:34 PM

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I've suffered a lot in my life and I have never shed a tear!!!
I was abandoned and left do die, but I survived!!!
1. You most are most probably one of the internet warriors who act like they posses all knowledge of this world, but if war ever happened there in Australia (or anywhere else), people like you would die first!
2. I prepare my brother for worst possible situations. I teach him how to fight, use a rifle, a knife.
2. a) I want him to grow into a person who can take care of himself.
3. Not some fat nerd who hides behind monitor and calls people who survived that chaos cowards.
4. My previous posts were about my friends and a little prank that has gone wrong.
You people in the west are too sensitive. Just like that emo girl we pranked.
1. Ok, this is the internet, so upon reading your previous posts, I'd rather question you as a troll than assume something nasty about you as a person - you've just proved me wrong about you being here to cause trouble, and you are surprised when westerners view people like you with such disdain? It's called moral standards, actually, no, it's called treating others how you expect to be treated - what goes around comes around. And given this is the internet, and I don't need to justify myself to you or anyone - I really DGAF. But whatever, I'll entertain us all here, at least one of us has to make for a good read. So on the point of Australia being at war and myself relative to this, the Empire Of Japan threatened invasion, they bombed Darwin so we kicked their asses out. Besides that, war will never come here - it's not practical and it's not possible so it's really not on my agenda. Besides that, my family has a proud military history serving under our flag, the flag of Prussia and Great Britian - in fact my last name is permanently cemented into our history, he held a 3 star rank, and was the CIC of our Army. I've been in the ADFC, I can operate a weapon, fly an aircraft... follow procedure and respect - protocol etc etc. I am the person who when the reserves are gone - we are the last resort - so in fact, I am the kind of person who is last to die. Of course, does that make me a coward? No, it's the difference between stupidity and well, and greed. So I quit, Not because it was bad but I had simply lost my patience with the ego-power trips and illegality (ie. the chain of respect which they felt they needn't abide by to the lower ranks) of some officers. I'm the kind of sadistic person who would gladly send everyone into a ball of fire than be defeated - but I'm not the only one, I suppose that would make me a great leader - because we all know when the next world war comes around, this will be the outcome and it's on every Commanders mind - that's why we have strategists, obviously suicide isn't a strategy...
My point is in regards to myself is that too many governments and nations simply don't have a concept of live and let live so come the time when humanity destroys itself, I'll sit back and enjoy the show.

2. He is 6. Christ does this even need argument?
2. Is it that hard? Sharp point goes into bad guy. Aims gun, pulls trigger. Farmers would probably put up a better fight than you (see point 3.)
a) And he is not capable of doing this himself? I find your lack of faith an insight into the hypocrisy of the statement...
3. So you drank wine to live, do you want a medal like you are were heroic? What I really want to know is how this turns anyone into a 'man'. You know, you're probably more likely to attempt it, but break down and get wasted if there was another war - the mentality reads in your posts and old habits die hard.
4. No, we just aren't as savage as Europeans have displayed in the past few thousand years. We have standards, and we like to live - and let live. But I'm not a pacifist, such a stance doesn't even really make sense.

It was nice justifying myself to you, you're welcome to try and allude me that you are something you will never be.

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