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Going to the bar alone - April 6th 2015, 09:19 PM

Not sure where to place this, so it may be moved to another category if necessary.

I like to go to the bar once in a great while (like twice every 3-4 months) by myself. I go around 3 in the afternoon when classes end and get just one beer or one glass of wine. I see it as "me time". I go to coffee shops all the time to get some peace, but once in awhile I like an alcoholic drink.

Is this socially weird or is there some kind of bar etiquette involved? Is there an acceptable time to go out and have a drink? I think around 3pm is great for me because it's mid afternoon, my day is over, and it's right before the rush of people getting out of work at 5. I don't want to be at a crowded bar to meet people and all that. I like going just for me to get time alone.

So what are some thoughts on that? I'm sometimes paranoid of being judged, but at the same time I enjoy it.

Btw I'm female and in my early 20's if that factors in at all. Also I go to the bar around the corner from my house so I walk. I would never drive.

Thanks! Just looking for some opinions.
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Re: Going to the bar alone - April 8th 2015, 05:52 AM

I remember when I used to experiment with alcohol, it was to relax, so being by myself and in obscure hours of the day was part of the effect. It's not socially awkward. In fact, because of your intention in consumption of alcohol, it is for yourself, not for other people, and bar staff or anyone, they won't care. The only bad time to have alcohol is in the morning .

This might be a weird suggestion but have you considered, during those peak hours, buying a bottle rather than a schooner? Then you can go to the somewhere else, like a park or something, relax, and you avoid the rush of workers, during that time you mentioned, around five-ish. That's if the environment of a specific bar can be replaced outside of it.

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Re: Going to the bar alone - April 8th 2015, 11:20 AM

Eh, there's nothing particularly weird about it, at least not in my opinion. I've done it myself before. I go to a few places which would usually be associated with having company on my own at off-peak times; pubs, restaurants, the cinema when I can afford it and so on. It's very relaxing and gives me some time to myself.
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Re: Going to the bar alone - April 9th 2015, 12:19 AM

That's absolutely fine. I've quite recently become fond of occasionally stopping in somewhere for a glass of wine after work some evenings - usually with nibbles and a newspaper - and it's the PERFECT 'me-time'. You're only going for one, you're not driving, you sounds like you're doing it because you want to and not because you need to.... you're just being an adult. Enjoy

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Re: Going to the bar alone - April 9th 2015, 01:36 PM

Well, bars are not the perfect place to go at night. There are many people who go to bars to cause trouble. At times young men are usually there because they want to cause a fight. They get drunk then pick on others. I've known many people who have went to the hospital because someone picked on them in a bar. I suggest you do not go alone. Or if you go alone be prepared to fight. Remember, Do not bring a girl with you to the bar. Many people at the bar are looking for girls to hit on.
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