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my boyfriend is an addict...help? - November 28th 2009, 02:16 AM

my boyfriend of almost 6 months is a drug addict. i knew this before and my parents ended up not allowing us to date because of it. they agreed to allow us to date if he can stay clean for 2 months, while his parents give him drug tests, and he was able to avoid weed. he kept on with other drugs because the test is strictly to pick up THC and nothing else. the thing is, we are very close and whether he is sober or not he still treats me well. he knows i hate it that he does these things and i worry about him constantly and ive had long talks with him (sober) on the phone about this and he always reassures me that its fine and hes okay. maybe its just because i wasnt raised to approve of drugs or anything like that, but i get so scared hes going to get hurt doing this and i cant seem to really get through to him i dont think im talking to him about it the right way. umm...a few drugs hes into...weed, ecstasy, whip its, salvia, he just recently stopped with adderol and perkiset. he doesnt drink too often thank god. please...if anyone can help me...i know im only 16 and whatever but i love this boy and i really need some advice. thanks
   
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Re: my boyfriend is an addict...help? - November 28th 2009, 06:23 AM

This is one of those things that you've really got to make a tough decision, because this isn't an easy problem. Are you happy that your boyfriend's an addict and do you trust him enough that he won't deteriorate? or do you feel more loyalty to your family and perhaps have a niggle in your mind that he'll never come through this addiction? This is a really tough one and a decision I can't make for you - it's a question of whether you love him more than his addictions. Be strong, I reckon you can do it. PM if you need - willing to chat at any time.

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Re: my boyfriend is an addict...help? - November 28th 2009, 04:23 PM

try tackleing it 1 addiction at a time. start with xtc or any other drugs that could seriously mess him up. show him support for every step of the way, understand hes gunna get mad when hes first getting off anything hard, its not u his brains just gunna be screaming at him to get high, stay close show support and keep loving him. also buy him lolipops/gum/tick-tacs anything like that he can suck/chew on when hes getting cravings. good luck


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Re: my boyfriend is an addict...help? - November 30th 2009, 03:47 AM

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try tackleing it 1 addiction at a time. start with xtc or any other drugs that could seriously mess him up. show him support for every step of the way, understand hes gunna get mad when hes first getting off anything hard, its not u his brains just gunna be screaming at him to get high, stay close show support and keep loving him. also buy him lolipops/gum/tick-tacs anything like that he can suck/chew on when hes getting cravings. good luck
If he doesn't want to give up, then the OP is definitely going to have a tough time trying to tackle the different drugs one at a time.

My personal opinion is that you have to make a decision: him and drugs or not him and no drugs?


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Re: my boyfriend is an addict...help? - December 6th 2009, 08:09 AM

first talk to him in person when hes sober, so you know for a fact he is, just let him know that it hurts you to see him doing these things to himself, you can suggest maybe Narcotics Anoymous meetings, that what helps me stay clean, but the only way hes going to quit is when hes ready, so just support him and if he doesnt quit you have to do whats healthy for you.
   
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Re: my boyfriend is an addict...help? - December 7th 2009, 02:14 AM

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If he doesn't want to give up, then the OP is definitely going to have a tough time trying to tackle the different drugs one at a time.

My personal opinion is that you have to make a decision: him and drugs or not him and no drugs?
its not that clear cut, addictions r hard to stop a lot of addicts want to be able to put drugs aside but u really cant also if u try and get him off everything at once it would do more damage than him staying addicted. for a lot of substances the withdrawls can put u near death.
steady and slow wins the race help him get off the harder drugs and slowly ween lighter drugs out of his life support him threw it all show him how happy it makes u that hes trying. having sum1 who cares can be the strongest force to help get sum1 sober. i tried dozens of times by my self without success untill a close friend of mine helped me. little things like she would talk to me on the phone at night keeping me busy so i wouldnt be shooting up. thanks to her ive been off the needle for almost a year(december 12 will be a full year). ppl dont get sober for themselves they do it for the ppl around them


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