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Unhappy i need help with someone that does drugs ? - December 28th 2009, 08:27 PM

heey. i just registered, so i'm not sure if this is the right place to ask; i'm sorry if it's not, hahaa. i'm a freshman this year and i met this really nice guy "nick." i've liked him since the beginning of the year, and i finally told my friend about it. since she's friends with him, she let me in on the loop: he does drugs. she also told me that he tried taking advantage of a girl before, and then someone else told me that he sells them. i'm not entirely sure if this is true, because i have almost every class with him and he would be like the least likely person i think would. i'm really concerned about what to do. any help would be great(:

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Re: i need help with someone that does drugs ? - December 28th 2009, 08:49 PM

Go straight out and ask him if he does drugs, that is the only way to know for sure. Rumors are just rumors, and in high school/college those get spread: a lot. The only way to know for sure is to go straight up and ask him, "Do you use/sell/ever used drugs?" and hope he gives you an honest answer. If he does, will that influence your decision to want to date him? If he doesn't, then there is no problem. The thing to remember is that even though you are interested in him, he may not be interested in you, drugs or no drugs. And about the part that he tried to take advantage of another girl; I wouldn't directly approach him about that. There's two sides to every story and a not-so-subtle gesture might have been taken the wrong way. If he tries to do that with YOU then it becomes the problem. Otherwise, keep an open mind and treat a person by their character, not by the things people say about him.



   
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Re: i need help with someone that does drugs ? - December 28th 2009, 10:59 PM

I wouldn't believe one word of it unless they heard it from his mouth or someone very close to him. But then again appearances can be deceiving. What kind of drugs are we talking? This kid doesn't sound like he has a great reputation and you being young as you are I don't know that it'd be a good idea to hang out with or around him until you're either more experienced in the drug department like with information, not necessarily don't them or unless you're older. As a freshman you don't need that, but then again this is only if what your friends are saying is true.
   
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Re: i need help with someone that does drugs ? - December 29th 2009, 04:25 AM

Rumors spread, especially in high school, but I will admit that I know a lot of people that sell drugs that I would never would have suspected of it. If you truly want to know for sure, the only way to find out is to ask him.

If you are looking to date him, you need to think long and hard about it. Being involved with someone that does and/or sells drugs can cause relationship and legal problems for you.


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Re: i need help with someone that does drugs ? - December 31st 2009, 09:30 AM

i agree with everyone else ask him, and if he does then its up to you, but know that if you get involved with him its not going to be good, you dont like drugs, im assuming, and that is going to cause a tention, he may try to pressure you and it could get out of hand there are a lot of risks, your a freshman, there are alot more guys to meet in the next 4 years that dont do that stuff and i think you should keep that in mind....
   
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Re: i need help with someone that does drugs ? - December 31st 2009, 09:44 AM

asking him would be a good place to start. don't believe everything you hear - people like to gossip.


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Re: i need help with someone that does drugs ? - January 1st 2010, 09:14 PM

Gossip is nasty it can really spread quickly, find out the truth for yourself and get to know him a little.
   
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Re: i need help with someone that does drugs ? - January 1st 2010, 11:49 PM

Just because he does or sells drugs does not mean that he is a good or bad person... some of hte nicest poeple I know (actually almost everyone I know) use or sell drugs. That is not really the issue though...

Like a lot poeple have already said rumors are nasty things but, and this is just my gut instinct, if you are concerned enough to ask for adivice on here then you must have real worries about what type of person he is. Generally when we like someone we whitewash over their blemishes but if certain negative characteristics still stick out at you then I think you should take it as a real warning sign.

The best thing to do would be to take it slowly, try to get to know him better as a freind before you dive head first into a relationship.

Also DO NOT do drugs just to get him to like you or to seem cool I know of a lot of couples where one person does use drugs and the other doesn't... if you really like eachother you'll both get over it.

One last thing... by drugs I kind of assumed you ment weed. Now I am not trying to tell you weed isn't bad but I would be a lot more concerend if he sold harder stuff. Also it depends on where you live, living in the Canadian suburds (like me) is a lot different from living in Detroit or Buffalo or LA so try and put my comment in perspective.

Hope it works out well for you one way or another.


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Re: i need help with someone that does drugs ? - January 2nd 2010, 01:44 AM

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Just because he does or sells drugs does not mean that he is a good or bad person... some of hte nicest poeple I know (actually almost everyone I know) use or sell drugs. That is not really the issue though...

Like a lot poeple have already said rumors are nasty things but, and this is just my gut instinct, if you are concerned enough to ask for adivice on here then you must have real worries about what type of person he is. Generally when we like someone we whitewash over their blemishes but if certain negative characteristics still stick out at you then I think you should take it as a real warning sign.

The best thing to do would be to take it slowly, try to get to know him better as a freind before you dive head first into a relationship.

Also DO NOT do drugs just to get him to like you or to seem cool I know of a lot of couples where one person does use drugs and the other doesn't... if you really like eachother you'll both get over it.

One last thing... by drugs I kind of assumed you ment weed. Now I am not trying to tell you weed isn't bad but I would be a lot more concerend if he sold harder stuff. Also it depends on where you live, living in the Canadian suburds (like me) is a lot different from living in Detroit or Buffalo or LA so try and put my comment in perspective.

Hope it works out well for you one way or another.
maybe so.. but a lot of people would not want to date a drug-dealer.


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Re: i need help with someone that does drugs ? - January 2nd 2010, 01:03 PM

Schools are vicious when it comes to rumours, it could easily not be true.

But also, don't be naive. Just because he doesn't 'seem' like the kind of person that would do these things, does not mean he doesn't.
Anybody is capable of taking and selling drugs. There is never really a certain type that you can stick to.

People will always surprise you. The only way you'll know the truth is to ask him about it. And be cautious, if he has a history like that, rumours or not. Better to be safe than sorry eh.
   
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