a wedding

[ALLorNOTHINGforCHRIST]

So I am 20 as of today and in under two weeks my 21 year old cousin is getting married. (you must be 21 to drink legally in the states) Every time I get around alcohol I want some even though my school and very strict and traditional Christian school does not want you to have a DROP even after you are legal. I do not know if he plans to have alcohol at his soon to be wife parents' house after the wedding. What do I do the closer to legal I get the worse I want some. I am not going to be like hey cousin plan to have booze on wedding night, but if he does I seriously need to be able to enjoy the party and be happy for them whether than be jealous and wishing I turned 21 today instead of 20. What do I do?

[Meowwings]

What I can tell you is that sometimes people need that one night to know the effects(with supervision of trusted friends who won't drink that night) See, my parents used to drink. My dad even had alcohol poisoning on multiple occasions. He recently introduced us to his childhood church (LDS) which has a no tolorence level on alcohol. So If anything, make yourself aware of the dangers in alcohol before you go in blind. Plus, when you see her in that gown and the smile on his face that is just undescribable, alcohol may be the last thing on your mind

[ALLorNOTHINGforCHRIST]

Originally Posted by Meowwings

What I can tell you is that sometimes people need that one night to know the effects(with supervision of trusted friends who won't drink that night) See, my parents used to drink. My dad even had alcohol poisoning on multiple occasions. He recently introduced us to his childhood church (LDS) which has a no tolorence level on alcohol. So If anything, make yourself aware of the dangers in alcohol before you go in blind. Plus, when you see her in that gown and the smile on his face that is just undescribable, alcohol may be the last thing on your mind

See neither my church Baptist nor my school PHC really agrees with alcohol, but I believe it is OK and even HEALTHY as long as you do not get drunk and know your limits so I plan to breach that contract even now and then when I am legal.

[Guile]

Actually, legally speaking it is illegal to purchase alcohol if you are under 21, if you are in your parent's or legal guardian's home, you are allowed to drink, legally speaking, I can sourcd thise if you want, so you can drink.

[OMFG!You'reActuallySmart!]

I don't see how or why the school would be uptight about it as you're drinking off the school grounds at a religious event. If you get shitfaced, the school and church have no way to penalize you. Besides, you plan to breach their values anyway at the wedding, so might as well do it when others can watch you to make sure you don't get out of hand. I assume you plan to get shitfaced at the after-party. Although I'm not religious by any means, if I were your cousin, I wouldn't care if you got shitfaced so long as you didn't cause a mess at the wedding/celebration area. If your intoxication did cause a mess and still assuming I were your cousin, don't expect an ounce of sympathy for a while.

[ALLorNOTHINGforCHRIST]

Originally Posted by The Man And XX Master

I don't see how or why the school would be uptight about it as you're drinking off the school grounds at a religious event. If you get shitfaced, the school and church have no way to penalize you. Besides, you plan to breach their values anyway at the wedding, so might as well do it when others can watch you to make sure you don't get out of hand. I assume you plan to get shitfaced at the after-party. Although I'm not religious by any means, if I were your cousin, I wouldn't care if you got shitfaced so long as you didn't cause a mess at the wedding/celebration area. If your intoxication did cause a mess and still assuming I were your cousin, don't expect an ounce of sympathy for a while.

no, I do not plan to get drunk even when it IS legal.

[JKmadu619]

The Man And XX Master: You always have such propper terms. I actually laughed when I read "Shitfaced".

ALLorNOTHINGforCHRIST: I don't get the problem. If you don't want to drink, don't compromise your values due to peer pressure. If you do want to drink but your school might not like it, screw them just don't brag about it on school grounds.

I usually don't support underaged drinking, but you rae nearly old enough, you will be with family and you do not intend to get drunk. So I say go for it if it's what you want.

- Justin

[ALLorNOTHINGforCHRIST]

Originally Posted by JKmadu619

The Man And XX Master: You always have such propper terms. I actually laughed when I read "Shitfaced".

ALLorNOTHINGforCHRIST: I don't get the problem. If you don't want to drink, don't compromise your values due to peer pressure. If you do want to drink but your school might not like it, screw them just don't brag about it on school grounds.

I usually don't support underaged drinking, but you rae nearly old enough, you will be with family and you do not intend to get drunk. So I say go for it if it's what you want.

- Justin

My problem is I know it is wrong to break the law but I also KNOW I will be tempted if I think I can get away with it. If I were legal I would have no problem because I personally feel that when you are legal it is OK to drink so long as you do not get drunk.

[OMFG!You'reActuallySmart!]

Originally Posted by ALLorNOTHINGforCHRIST

no, I do not plan to get drunk even when it IS legal.

Given the fact you said you would have no problem drinking away when you're legal, I have a hard time believing you would be able to control yourself and not get drunk. If you haven't drank before, how do you know what it feels like to be drunk? People also have different ideas of what being drunk is, some view being drunk when you're so intoxicated you cant stand on your own two feet, whereas others view being drunk when you get a bit past tipsy, and others go strictly by the legal definition.

[ALLorNOTHINGforCHRIST]

Originally Posted by The Man And XX Master

Given the fact you said you would have no problem drinking away when you're legal, I have a hard time believing you would be able to control yourself and not get drunk. If you haven't drank before, how do you know what it feels like to be drunk? People also have different ideas of what being drunk is, some view being drunk when you're so intoxicated you cant stand on your own two feet, whereas others view being drunk when you get a bit past tipsy, and others go strictly by the legal definition.

I go by when you have trouble controlling yourself and you can drink and not get drunk, but this not a debate so let us not turn it into one.

[Ashleyhateslife]

Originally Posted by Guile

Actually, legally speaking it is illegal to purchase alcohol if you are under 21, if you are in your parent's or legal guardian's home, you are allowed to drink, legally speaking, I can sourcd thise if you want, so you can drink.

It depends on what the states laws are. For example, I live in Michigan and if your parents give you alcohol they can get in trouble. I am 16 and I can't even drive someone home who was drinking. But in Wisconsin, when I got see my dad, I can legally drink with him as long as I get my mom's permission because she has fully custody and rights of me.