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Ok, so I have this friend that smokes weed and I'm trying to help her stop but I don't know what to do to help because she says that unless I'm with her all the time, I can't really help her stop. Can anyone give me any advice so I can help her before she does permanent bodily harm to herself.
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Re: Trying To Help - September 5th 2011, 05:04 PM

It's hard to help people in situations like this because everyone has freewill, so if she wants to keep using then she's going to, no matter what you do. Of course you can't be with her 24/7, but you can offer to support her if she decides to stop using, like if she's feeling tempted she can call you or you can hang out or something like that. Make sure not to get so involved with helping her that it takes a major negative toll on you, because that won't be good for either of you.

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Re: Trying To Help - September 5th 2011, 07:41 PM

As someone who has been on the other side of this I can tell you that she wont stop until she wants to and if you try to force her to before hand she wont and she wont trust you anymore. My best friend thought i was addicted to drugs and told the school psychologist who almost told my parents. Ever since then I don't talk to this guy who used to be my best friend about anything whether its related to drugs or not. If I where you I would just let her know that you want her to stop but you know she wont until she is ready but when she is ready you will be there for her and help her.

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Re: Trying To Help - September 5th 2011, 11:02 PM

As the others have said all you can really do is let her know you're worried about her and want her to stop so when she's ready to you'll be there to help.Let her know that if she feels the urge to use that she can call you up and you can talk to her or even go and hang out with her.It's really all you can do

Though I urge you to not try to force her into quitting.She'll end up distrusting you and you'll be of no help to her then.In order to help her she has to know she can trust you.I've been on her side of the fence (for something other than drugs) and I've had friends that tried in their own way to help me before I was ready and I pushed away all of them,haven't talked to them in years.

Good luck and also maybe show her this website,you don't need to tell her your username or anything but maybe this website can help her out a bit

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