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my friend - January 29th 2012, 02:45 PM

hi my friend ive known him since prep has strated using drugs and his became weird he failing school and i feel like i should help him in some way before he f**ks his life up
   
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Re: my friend - January 29th 2012, 04:13 PM

I suggest you talk to him and express your concern and get him help.
   
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Re: my friend - February 2nd 2012, 02:02 AM

I agree.

You need to talk to him and tell him how you feel. But ultimately, he may not listen to you - and you really cant force him to change or to stop these hurtful behaviors. All you can do is be his friend, and tell him what you think, and them leave him be and make his own choices.

As a friend, it hurts alot to see another person that you somewhat care about destroy there own life, but remember, in our eyes we see them destroying there lives, but in there eyes, they see drugs, and alcohol, as a healthy lifestyle, and a great coping strategy (or get away). So alot of times, it takes alot of people, and alot of effort to get them the help they need.



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Re: my friend - February 2nd 2012, 03:47 PM

The important thing is to continue being there for your friend. Like Chris and Amber said, express your concern - let your friend know how you feel about it and let them know that if they need help with getting other help that you'll be there for him.

Drug addictions can be a nasty thing to get over, so just know to be patient with him. (=


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Re: my friend - February 2nd 2012, 06:31 PM

Talk to him and let him know where you stand on this, but if he doesn't listen to you and continues using, you'll have to decide whether to stay friends with him or disconnect until he gets help. You can help him, but only so much.


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Re: my friend - February 3rd 2012, 06:43 AM

Your story seems EXTREMELY familiar... My friend also started using drugs, but I never did anything about it. He recently got back into high school after dropping out for one year, but it saddens me to say he's not the same anymore. He acts very weird, he has weird dreams, no one trusts him (since he broke into a friend's house to steal his PS3), people see him at 12am in random areas, and he's just generally extremely sketchy. Thing is... please don't let the same happen to your friend. I never did anything, and I feel very guilty for not doing so. DO SOMETHING about this, other wise your friend will fall even deeper into drugs, trust me. Whether that is: telling his parents, a councillor, or a teacher, do whatever you can to get him help and educate him since this could be his life that is at risk!

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Re: my friend - February 3rd 2012, 11:00 PM

I agree with the others, try and help your friend out! This is NOT something to ignore. Like Carpe Diem said, if you let it slip by you, your friend could get hurt. I know that too. I have a friend who does weed and drinks, They're the same as they've always been, but I always worry. I've told my mother, whose done nothing.

Get your friend help, talk to them about it, tell them that you care personally.

Drugs never lead to something good, trust me, I know too many people who fucked their lives up.


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Re: my friend - February 3rd 2012, 11:00 PM

I agree with the others, try and help your friend out! This is NOT something to ignore. Like Carpe Diem said, if you let it slip by you, your friend could get hurt. I know that too. I have a friend who does weed and drinks, They're the same as they've always been, but I always worry. I've told my mother, whose done nothing.

Get your friend help, talk to them about it, tell them that you care personally.

Drugs never lead to something good, trust me, I know too many people who fucked their lives up.


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