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Sex with boys! - April 17th 2012, 06:17 PM

i have to take drugs before i have sex overwise i dont enjoy it with boys is that werid!?? xxx
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Re: Sex with boys! - April 17th 2012, 06:20 PM

It's not weird, it's dangerous. And you should talk to someone about it.
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Re: Sex with boys! - April 20th 2012, 01:45 PM

I agree with Lissa, it's dangerous, you should talk to someone about it, and maybe try to do something that would make it more entertaining or fun for you?

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Re: Sex with boys! - April 21st 2012, 08:23 PM

Why do you feel like you have to use drugs? Could it be that you are not sexually interested in guys? Were you not ready to lose your virginity? Have you been dating the wrong guys? Do you feel nervous or anxious around sex?

It isn't normal, or safe, to have to take drugs before sex. First, there are the general issues around taking drugs. Issues with legality, issues with side effects and long term effects. But then, given that you are mixing drugs and sex, there are issues to do with consent. If you are having sex under the influence, you are not actually able to give proper consent. You may end up doing things you wouldn't choose to do if you weren't under the influence, or you may end up getting taken advantage of.

I'd highly advise you to seek help for this.

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Re: Sex with boys! - April 21st 2012, 08:58 PM

I wouldn't say it was "weird" but it's unhealthy and dangerous.

Are you attracted to men? Do you have any issues with your sexuality? If so then I think you really need to figure out your own sexuality before taking drugs to have sex with men.

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Re: Sex with boys! - April 22nd 2012, 09:41 AM

I think there are two different issues going on here.
Firstly the fact your taking drugs and the health issues that go with that.

But secondly, that you feel you need something to enable you to sleep with guys.
By the fact that your emphasising guys can i ask if you've ever been with a girl? Because it may well be that your questioning your sexuality.

I've always struggled to enjoy sex, and a while ago would simply get myself totally drunk to be able to do it. For me it was very low self-esteem. The thought of someone seeing me, touching me just made me feel so bad that i drank to get rid of it.

All i can really suggest is you try to look more into why you feel you need the drugs? Are you with a boyfriend you can talk with? Are you feelign pressured into it? Is it self-esteem.

Working that out should enable you to work on the root difficulties.

In terms of the drug use. It is dangerous. You need to stop, or get help for it.

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