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My aunt, the bully. - July 21st 2012, 04:02 PM

This is long and a bit confusing in some ways. I'm not sure where to begin but anyways,

First of all, My aunt has always treated me like a puppet, She would get me mad at people so I could run to her, always where I was younger. I am 21 years old and she is still trying to control me. I can't do things my own way without her talking crap about me.

Another thing is that she will get people mad at each other and she would sit back and laugh. Its kind of sad on how I used to bow down to her and and she had me so tight wrapped around her finger that I didn't open my eyes and snap out of it until about 3 years ago, and now they think I have a voice and my own thoughts and blame others for my actions on everything such as the way I dress and whether I wear make- up or not so she wants me to get rid of fiance because he is supposingly ruining my life.


She knows I don't fall for her brain-washing, manipulating tricks anymore but she is still trying things. Like yesterday, She had my grandmother to come down to my house to flip out on me for no reason. This is what she said "that boy has ruined your life, won't let you bath or dress up nice or nothing" She puts down everything I wear and claims its his fault I dress "the way that I do". 90 percent of my clothes I have now were bought way before I met my fiance, so I'm not sure how that makes sense. The clothes he has bought me are clothes that I picked out myself. and I bath all the time, I can't stand to go without a bath. WTF?


When me and my fiance first got together, she would crack jokes like "Me and him are having an affair", "He is so sexy" and all kinds of other shit.
She even told her husband at the time(now divorced) to steal my fiance's phone to put porn pics in his gallery, just to get a laugh! All of that stopped so she is trying other things. They are still trying to brain wash me because she thinks if she gets others keep talking about how he is so-calledly ruining my life that I will evenutually believe it and fianlly dump my fiance. Oh I forgot to add,

That isn't the first time my grandmother and I has had this "talk". My grandmother started crying like I was abusing her, and I could tell it was fake on top of that. I wasn't even yelling, She was saying I was being disrespectful because I stood up for myself, I didn't swear or anything. I am the same person as I have always been before I met my fiance, but yet according to my aunt and the brain wash my grandmother has suffered through my aunt, my everyday self is supposed to be my fiance's fault.
   
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Re: My aunt, the bully. - July 21st 2012, 05:09 PM

Wow...there's gotta be a reason why they don't like your fiancé. Or maybe there isn't. If it's the latter then just try to survive until you two are married and hopefully far from your bully of an aunt.
She's probably afraid of losing you...Personally, I don't think she's doing a very good job at making you want to stay close to home.
Maybe there's a reason to their maddness.
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Re: My aunt, the bully. - July 21st 2012, 05:53 PM

sounds to me like your aunt is just lonely. not that that is an excuse. if i were you i'd ignore them. live your own life. to hell with anyone else. its gotta be your decisions because you're the one who has to live with the ramifications. ya know?
   
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Re: My aunt, the bully. - July 22nd 2012, 04:12 AM

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Originally Posted by Collies R Us View Post
Wow...there's gotta be a reason why they don't like your fiancé. Or maybe there isn't. If it's the latter then just try to survive until you two are married and hopefully far from your bully of an aunt.
She's probably afraid of losing you...Personally, I don't think she's doing a very good job at making you want to stay close to home.
Maybe there's a reason to their maddness.
I'll be praying for you.
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There isn't a reason for her to hate my fiance, its just that before he came into my life she had control over my life. She would take things out on me that wasn't my fault, and lie on my mom to me, and like a crazy person, with every lie I would go confront my mom about it and me and my mom would fight and like an idiot I run back to my aunt upset. My aunt had it where I would go to her advice,and stuff and tell her my "woes". It used to didn't matter what I did before I met my fiance, I was always a "monster". Like for an example,A few years before I met my fiance, She decided to start a fight with my mom, and blaming stuff that happened to her at home on me and my mom, My cousin was adopted was an angry kid growing up and always fighting with my aunt,her room always stayed a mess and she was too lazy to learn how to do her clothes, well they tried to take mine and I didn't let that happen, so they started yelling at me and calling me selfish and all kinds of crap.Fights similar to this happened all the time. They would start fights out of the blue and when I stood up for myself, it was automatically the person I was dating's fault. She also would take advantage of me because I am too nice of a person, I let walk all over me. One day I finally opened my eyes thought back to all those fights and crap and realized, she is evil. When my grandmother had trouble out of my mom's brother and my other aunt because drugs, they would both come and drag me and my mom into it as well, pick something to bitch and complain about and have all out there fighting.

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