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Two Ways To Go - August 9th 2012, 03:48 AM

So my mom and dad are seperated but they live in the same city. I'm currently living with my dad but I'm staying with my mom for the summer. Since school is arriving, I have yo make a final desision on who to stay with.
My mom is very abusive both physically and emotionally. I have a bad history with her which makes the decision harder. But lately she's calmed down and tried to touch with me emotionally. But her temper can get the better of her sometimes.
My dad is very absent even when I'm with him. He only supplies food and shelter, nothing more. On weekends we try to connect but he doesn't like to partake with me. Plus we live with his girlfriend that's such a pain in the ass.
There's advantages with both butI'm really unsure on who to pick.


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IT HAS NEVER BEEN AND IT IS ALL THAT EVER WAS
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Re: Two Ways To Go - August 9th 2012, 04:27 PM

Live with your dad. You can find support elsewhere to make up for the fact that he isn't around enough or you can at least talk to him about having him support you more. It's a lot harder to undo physical and mental abuse. You shouldn't try to make excuses for your mom. EVERYONE gets angry and frustrated, yet most people have the morals and the sense to not hurt their child because of it.




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Re: Two Ways To Go - August 10th 2012, 05:25 AM

It's ultimately your decision, and I don't think there's really a "right" or "wrong" answer for this situation... but Bumble Bee has a point. Being emotionally distant from a parent can be painful, but if you have friends at school, you can always connect with them. If you are living with a parent who is emotionally abusive, then "home" isn't just painful - it's unsafe. Fortunately, you only have to deal with this for one year... then you'll be an adult and can move out of whatever home you end up in!






   
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