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My best "friend" - August 30th 2012, 04:59 AM

I'm friends with this girl, let's just call her Maria, and we've been best friends for such a long time. I've been "observing" her actions and what she does and I just don't understand her. She drinks, smokes, skips classes, and dates pretty much everyone, and even has 1000 facebook friends, only knowing like 50 of them. Its obvious people only like her for her beauty and she just can't see that and just just gets hurt over and over because a guy or girl will break up with her when they got what they wanted.

I try telling her she needs to stop drinking, smoking, etc but she just gets made saying "Its my body i can do whatever I want" and she just gets pissed. Then the next day she'll make up with me like nothing happened. I just don't get her. And whats even worse is she refused to date me, after breaking up with her girlfriend INTENDING to date me. Its like she liked me for a day then the next day she could have cared less.

What do I do? I want to stop caring about her and just ignore here but for some reason I do nothing but drive myself back to her.

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Re: My best "friend" - September 1st 2012, 07:01 AM

It's hard (and sad) to watch someone who has little to no respect for themselves go about their daily life. I don't know Maria like you do, but she sounds like many women I have known in the past. These women, who had little to no respect for themselves, somehow still expected the men in their lives to respect them. I don't know why the concept is so difficult to understand, but unfortunately, all you can really do is model good behavior for her, and someday, she may finally wake up and think, "Why haven't I been going for someone who treats me right, like my friend?" She may not end up dating you, but she may finally surround herself with other great people like yourself, and eventually end up with a man who won't "hump her and dump her." The change will have to come from within Maria, though - she will need to change how she views herself before other people will view her differently, thus treating her differently.






   
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Re: My best "friend" - September 1st 2012, 09:10 AM

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It's hard (and sad) to watch someone who has little to no respect for themselves go about their daily life. I don't know Maria like you do, but she sounds like many women I have known in the past. These women, who had little to no respect for themselves, somehow still expected the men in their lives to respect them. I don't know why the concept is so difficult to understand, but unfortunately, all you can really do is model good behavior for her, and someday, she may finally wake up and think, "Why haven't I been going for someone who treats me right, like my friend?" She may not end up dating you, but she may finally surround herself with other great people like yourself, and eventually end up with a man who won't "hump her and dump her." The change will have to come from within Maria, though - she will need to change how she views herself before other people will view her differently, thus treating her differently.
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