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What do you think defines a strong mother/daughter relationship? - May 26th 2013, 04:26 AM

Title says it all. Yes, we daughters all love our moms. But what defines a strong relationship? Do you think its alright to have secrets? (Such as crushes, personal problems , etc.) Or in a strong m/d relationship should they be completely honest with each other?

My mom literally knows everything about me, except my past crushes, depression problems, mental and physical struggles, and all my personal thoughts. I thought we had a perfect relationship, as I'm sure she hides things from me. But today my mom mentioned, as she helped clean my room, that she wouldn't pick up any papers because she knows I get nervous that she'll see something. The only things I'd hate for her yo see are Love Letters and painful art I drew to deal with hard times.

Do we have a strong relationship? We get coffee together and hangout often. if that's not enough I dunno what is.


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Re: What do you think defines a strong mother/daughter relationship? - May 26th 2013, 06:01 PM

Everyone is entitled to some personal space, whether it's physical or mental. I believe a strong mother/daughter relationship is defined by how great the communication is. If you are able to talk to your mom about what you need from her, and vice versa, then that's a strong relationship. =) You don't necessarily have to tell her every single little thing... in fact, I'd be a bit concerned if you did! As a teenager, you need to spend some time apart from your mother in order to determine who you are as an individual. Similarly, while it's okay for a mother to be somewhat of a "buddy/friend" and get coffee with her daughter, it can be problematic if she begins to talk about personal things, like problems she's having with a romantic relationship. It might be different with an adult daughter, but with a teenage daughter, there still needs to be a distinction between "mother/parent" and "buddy/friend." A lack of clear boundaries could lead to enmeshment, which is ultimately bad for the relationship. Based on the things you shared with us, your relationship seems fine. =) You don't feel pressured to tell her EVERYTHING, and she respects your privacy by stating she doesn't want to read something that you don't want her to. There's clear communication, and I'm guessing there's a clear hierarchy as well (she's in charge/makes the rules, you follow them - you can still hang out and have fun, but you're not telling her what to do/treating her like an exact equal/peer).






   
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Re: What do you think defines a strong mother/daughter relationship? - May 29th 2013, 09:10 PM

Thanks PSY, this really helps :3


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Re: What do you think defines a strong mother/daughter relationship? - June 1st 2013, 12:25 AM

I think that you do have a strong mother/daughter relationship. My mom even told me myself that I've probably done things I haven't told her about. I think that a lot of the time parents do understand we are kids and do make mistakes or have things that are just too personal to tell, just like we'd respect their needed space.

I agree with Robin, too, that it is a great thing that you two have pretty open communication but everyone does need their personal space. I think that the two of you probably do have a strong bond, and that's great.


   
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