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Slipping away?? - June 10th 2013, 03:52 PM

So....I met this guy online on Twitter. At first it seemed we were so different, and there would be no way we would ever become friends. But we started talking and there was a connection......

Now he's my best friend and we've been talking for more than a year. He knows everything about my past, the things I've been through and the things I am still dealing with. He was always there for me, even though he is 5 years older and lives at the other side of the world. He doesn't judge me for who I am, and he's the only one that really knows me.

But lately he's starting to act weird. When I sent him messages, his answers are just short, almost ignorant and meaningless. I have no idea why he's acting like this. Although I know he's dealing with a lot of things at the moment, I don't know if that's the reason. Maybe he's just sick of me.......

I just don't know what to do anymore. His messages are just hurtful, and I don't think I'm able to deal with it much longer. On the other side, I just can't afford to lose him and I don't want to live this life without him, the only person who has accepted me for who I am.

If any of you have been in this kind of situation, please reply,
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Re: Slipping away?? - June 10th 2013, 06:25 PM

Ahh, I've been in a really similar situation before, but I'm not sure how much help I'll be.

Try just talking to him, asking him what's wrong. Don't make it about you (why are you being mean? etc) or act angry, even if you're hurt, just let him know that you've noticed a change, and you want to make sure he's okay. Check if anything's changed, if anything's wrong etc. If he opens up, good, support him and fingers crossed things will go back to what they were, or at th every least, he'll stop being so cruel.

Failing that, let him know he's hurting you, see what he says. He may honestly not realise it, and if he does know and doesn't do anything, maybe he's not a good a friend as you thought.

Personally, when a similar thing happened to me, I didn't press him because I knew he was going through a tough time, just let him know I was there, whether he wanted support or just someone to chat to, and I would be no matter how long he didn't reply for. A few months on, and we're okayish, we don't talk as much but they're nice conversations.

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Re: Slipping away?? - June 10th 2013, 06:43 PM

I agree with Em

just talk to him about it
he may just be dealing with something and doesn't have the energy to be accommodating
or he might not even know he's being like this
guys prefer more direct requests with things like these
Don't be blunt but do bring it up

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Re: Slipping away?? - June 10th 2013, 07:46 PM

Thanks to the both of you.....

This afternoon I sent him an e-mail, explaining how I felt......And since we've been talking for this long, I kinda knew what he would reply, but of course I wasn't sure.

He said he was trying to be mean.....(happened yesterday, he made a pretty mean comment about a very sensitive subject) But he did that because he cares about me.....

Everything's okay now.......at least I hope.....He had surgery a week or two ago, and he keeps saying he's fine and okay (I don't think so though) .....I'm just worried about that now

You were both right I guess
1. he didn't know and he didn't mean to
2. he's having a tough time, which is also a reason we haven't talked to much
3 the talking worked

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Re: Slipping away?? - June 10th 2013, 07:54 PM

No problem
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