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Exclamation Emancipation - July 11th 2013, 07:24 PM

Hi, my girlfriend has a terrible home life where she is often verbally abused. She is also expected to do things she is incapable of doing without love and support provided by the family. I have been with her for almost 2 years, and because it's a long distance relationship, I haven't seen this, but I have seen the results of it. The times I have been around them, her mother puts on a facade of kindness. I would like to have her emancipated, and she and I have worked out a means of income, and a place of residence. Unfortunately, she has just gotten all of her electronic devices taken away, and has no means of contacting me right now. I am also unsure of how to go about emancipation. Any help would be great. Thanks.
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Re: Emancipation - July 11th 2013, 09:13 PM

Its really challenging to get emancipation, it's not a simple matter of "well, my parents are hard on me and it's negatively impacting my well being, let me be an adult and get out of here". You have to prove you can take care of yourself financially and that you have the maturity for it. So it probably won't work out for your girlfriend to be emancipated.

If she feels she is being abused in any way, shape or form she has MANY options that are more accessible solutions for her that don't force her to be adult just because she doesn't like her parents (or her treatment of them). Even if she got emancipated they'd resent her for doing it to get away from them (as opposed to the multitudes of other reasons for it) and no matter how much she might want them gone now that might be something she'll regret later on.

So for other options, For starters she could think about moving out and finding someone else to live with, this of course would require a level of agreement from her parents since they'd have to agree to it as they could bring her back as a run away.... She could also communicate her problems to child protective services / family and children services / child welfare, what ever it is called in your state and ask them if they can do something to intervene, most organizations will work with the family to improve the situation.




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Re: Emancipation - July 12th 2013, 06:30 PM

If she moves out of the house in any way shape or form, her parents will resent her. They are very clear about this, and have said that if she tries to live anywhere else, even with other family, they will charge her for runaway and possibly the family for kidnapping. She needs to get out of the situation because it is harmful to her mental health, and in turn her physical health, and her parents will put on a facade for anyone who comes around and hasn't seen it before.
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Re: Emancipation - July 12th 2013, 09:10 PM

I believe her best option is to contact any of the organizations mentioned previously.
They can do an investigation into what is going on and determine appropriate action to help her family.
She also can document the abuse (writing down times, what is said, what is occuring during the situation, any physical abuse, her mental and emotional feelings after what is said to her etc.) This could help as evidence and to support her.
Also, just curious, what do you mean by "She is also expected to do things she is incapable of doing without love
and support provided by the family."?
I am just trying to understand what she is going through so I may be able to give you more suggestions.


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Re: Emancipation - July 13th 2013, 01:09 AM

It's hard to explain, what that means. But as is taught in health classes and family life classes, in order to operate and function in society, you need to receive love and support from a family. She doesn't receive that. There's a lot more but my mind is a bit blank, because I'm a bit stressed over this.

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