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Help helping a friend? - July 17th 2013, 04:14 PM

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Last night, one of my best friends got the news that one of her old friends passed away due to suicide. I was with her at the time she got the news, and we sort of distracted her by watching YouTube videos. This Is her first loss to suicide, and I want to help her trough this, but I'm not too sure how to go about it. I know the obvious answer is sitting be there for her, but I'm not really sure what to do. I also know each person grieves differently, but any help would be nice.
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Re: Help helping a friend? - July 17th 2013, 06:08 PM

This sounds really hard for your friend, firstly make sure you look after yourself, after all your wellbeing is most important. Just be there for her and let her know that your always there if she wants to talk, however try not to always talk about it... only talk about if she brings it up; as it could be she might not want to talk about it some days and others she will talk about it. You could always tell her about teen help, as she will be able to talk to you as well as got more support if she wants it from other users.
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Re: Help helping a friend? - July 18th 2013, 04:34 AM

Thanks Jenny. And yeah, I don't want to make her talk about it if she doesn't want to. I know how that feels, and sometimes you just want to focus on anything but. Thanks c:


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Re: Help helping a friend? - July 21st 2013, 05:12 PM

Like you said, everyone grieves differently. Some people want to talk about the loss every day, while other people may never say a word. There's no "wrong" way to grieve, so long as the grieving person isn't hurting themselves or other people. Your friend may be in shock, numbed to the loss. She may not be able to process the loss very well until several weeks/months have passed. You may begin to see more verbalization then... angry rants, openly crying, etc. Be attentive to whatever she's showing you. If she's silent, then be silent with her. If she wants to talk about how upset she is with her friend, validate those feelings and let her vent. The best thing you can do is to simply be there for her, and to attend to whatever her needs are at the time.






   
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Re: Help helping a friend? - July 22nd 2013, 02:55 AM

Okay. Thank you Robin


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