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Sisters in the hospital again. - September 3rd 2013, 01:30 AM

My sister is in the hospital for like the millionth time this year. This year it has been all about her and she get's all the attention. My sisters birthday was 2 days ago and she went into the emergency room on her birthday and then again yesterday and got admitted yesterday. The thing that bugs the hell out of me is that it is 19 days until my birthday and my grandma should be focused on me for my birthday but instead my sister is getting all the attention. And i feel horrible that I feel this way I know she deserves it because she is sick but when the fuck is it going to be my turn. My mom joked and said that my birthday was going to be canceled because my sister went into the hospital on my grandpa's birthday, then hers so it only makes sense that she would go in on my mine. But it wasn't funny at all. I just feel like I'm being ignored and no one gives a damn about me.


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Re: Sisters in the hospital again. - September 3rd 2013, 11:28 AM

I'm sorry to hear about what's going on. I can sorta relate to how you're feeling though. Hopefully things will work themselves out and she'll get better and you'll have a great birthday!
   
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Re: Sisters in the hospital again. - September 3rd 2013, 10:59 PM

I'm sorry to hear about the situation you are in. I can understand where you are coming from wanting attention from everyone for your birthday.

You really shouldn't let things like this affect your mood, and your birthday. Being 21 (almost 22) now, it's time to be able to accept what's going on, and move on from it. What I mean is, this may be a bummer situation, but you need to let go of it (all the negativity, and things you can't change), and make it the best you can (into something more positive). Even if that means going out with friends instead of your family for your birthday (that's what I do). Or, you can celebrate your birthday a week later with your family. You shouldn't let the current situation dictate how your birthday is going to end up.

Remember, there is some things you can control, and some things you can't. Change the things you can, and forget about the ones you can't.


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Re: Sisters in the hospital again. - September 3rd 2013, 11:55 PM

I have to agree with Chris, i know your situation must be tough, but I do feel like that at 21/22 you really should try to move past it. If you were 12 I'd get it, but your not. I don't want to seem insensitive, but that's the reality of it.

Having a sick child in the family can be extremely draining and time consuming for the people who have to take care of him/her (her in your case). It can mean that the parents can't divide their attention as evenly with all their kids. The reality of the situation is that they are probably hoping that you are old enough to cope with that.

There are lots of other things you can do--go with your friends or throw yourself a party in your sisters hospital room. She would probably be happy for something like that. Just try to be understanding of how exhausting having a sick kid, I can totally understand how a birthday party for their adult daughter might not rank all that high in their priorities right now, so you should take it on yourself to do something for yourself




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Re: Sisters in the hospital again. - September 5th 2013, 12:31 AM

thanks for basically calling me a child and self and not helping at all. You can delete this thread because no is helping there just adding to it.


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Re: Sisters in the hospital again. - September 5th 2013, 01:24 AM

I'm sorry if you think we were calling you a child. It's just that I honestly don't think there is a lot you can expect to change over a birthday if your sister is in the hospital. In mentioning IF you were 12 I meant that your parents might make a bigger deal out of a birthday IF you were younger. I by no means think your a child or selfish. In fact, I think you're trying really hard NOT to be that way. But the reality is that I don't think you can really change the situation and that your parents are probably expecting you to take on a higher level of independence because you are older even though it still super sucks for you...




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