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Do i move in with her? - October 1st 2013, 11:26 PM

My "best friend" has asked me to move in to her cabin with her, I have been tempted because I'm kind of a loner in college as not a lot of people like me or feign to like me and I don't like spending a lot of time at home. Any ideas?

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A few people don't like me
Few faults with the cabin
Friend keeps bringing her boyfriend her who gets drunk and curses me out
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Re: Do i move in with her? - October 2nd 2013, 01:44 AM

I would, I don't see why not!
   
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Re: Do i move in with her? - October 2nd 2013, 01:46 AM

You give some valid reasons on each side. If I could I'd move in. You'd have someone to talk to and you could always get a heater! Good luck on what you decide!



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Re: Do i move in with her? - October 2nd 2013, 02:55 AM

I don't recommend moving in with friends. I know I am harsh but I have seen too many issues and experienced my own share of issues. I think it is better to move in with a stranger who you've met a few times and is willing to sign an agreement in writing before moving in with a best friend. Too many relationships have been shattered over money
   
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Re: Do i move in with her? - October 2nd 2013, 11:51 AM

I see advantages and disadvantages to living with friends. Like not all friends are the kind of friends you want to live with if they have certain personality traits and lifestyle habits (ex. socialness, mannerisms, partying and tidiness) it can make someone easier or harder to live with if those traits clash

My 2 main concerns in moving to the cabin are electricity and heat. Winter is coming. Will you be able to buy a heater? Will there be reliable electricity so that if you have to study then you can? If both of those things can be worked out (or aren't as serious as I think they may be) then I'd go for it. If you end up hating it there you can always move out




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Re: Do i move in with her? - October 2nd 2013, 10:03 PM

Based on what you shared in your previous thread, I think it would be best to hold off on moving in with this particular friend. You don't want to be around people whose aggression toward you might escalate. I'm betting there are other options available to you - it might just take some additional searching and/or adjustments to your current budget. None of that is fun, of course, but you'll be saving yourself a lot of grief in the long run.






   
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Re: Do i move in with her? - October 5th 2013, 04:58 AM

Thanks guys, I've decided not to move in with her and told her, she's not happy and angry about it but I don't give a shit, she only asked me to move in so she'd have more money. Plus I would probably move out within a month of living with her 24/7.



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Re: Do i move in with her? - October 5th 2013, 10:30 AM

It sounds like you've made the right decision, it probably wouldn't have worked out anyway if there is more negatives to living with her than pros especially if she didn't want you to move in because you're her friend and it was more for the money side of things.
   
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Re: Do i move in with her? - October 6th 2013, 08:53 PM

Since you've made a decision and no longer seem to be in need of advice, I'm going to go ahead and close your thread. Feel free to PM me if you would like to have your thread reopened, or feel free to create a new thread! =)






   
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