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I Miss My Friend - April 28th 2009, 04:15 AM

Hi, I am new!! I have something that is really bothering me. About 15 weeks ago I got together with the one person in the world who knows me better than anyone. I had a tough choice to make. See I love this guy to death. We have had our history, but he could never leave his girlfriend. I am getting married, but I didn't feel I was being fair to my finace and that is the person I want to be with. So in order to make our relationship work, I told my friend I needed time. We both joked inappropriately with one another and even when that quit I still could not be friends with him. So we got together and I told him how I felt and long story short he would give me my time or whatever I needed. Needless to say it was a very emotional time for both of us. Neither of us wanted to let go, but it was what we had to do. I have missed him so much and I know he is only a call away, but.... His dad is not doing good and I left him a note saying I was sorry and he texted me the other day. My house caught on fire and he left me a note, but that's all the contact we have had. I miss him so much. I know I can contact him whenever I want. How do I get my friend back and be ok with myself? I miss him terribly.
   
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Re: I Miss My Friend - May 2nd 2009, 07:36 PM

Hi,
Honestly, I don't think you guys can ever be the same, and if you do it will take some time. However, I am sorry that all this has happened to you. If he is the person you want to be with, then I don't tihnk you can change ur feelings, so if you want to contact him you should
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She likes him...he likes her...welcome to heartbreak.

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Re: I Miss My Friend - May 2nd 2009, 07:44 PM

Hi there,

It's so hard when you feel that way about someone who for whatever reason doesn't feel able to be with you. Taking some time apart sounds like a really wise decision, if nothing else to give you time to come to terms with your feelings and his response. Do you think you have fully accepted that he will not leave his girlfriend? If you are still hoping, on some level, that he would, then I think minimal contact would be best for now. Obviously you both have a lot going on in your lives and I think occassional contact to make sure the other is still okay will help maintain the friendship, in the long run. However, it will be hard for you to have more contact if seeing him brings your feelings more to the surface again, in which case I think a bit more time would be beneficial.

It's understandable to miss him, and if you want a bit more contact then you could always try arranging to meet up and see how that goes. If it goes fine, then maybe you could start to have more regular contact again.

Good luck.

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