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Worried about my Mum - April 29th 2009, 09:17 PM

I'm getting pretty worried about my Mum recently, seeing her down is the one thing that really gets to me.

Basically, the marriage with my Dad has been slowly breaking down over the last 5 years or so - theres just a lack of love, feeling, anything between them, they sleep in seperate beds and shes told me they just keep it together for the sake of convinience and my little sister (5). I think the problem is he doesnt appreciate her, he treats her like a kid and is never appreciative of anything. Theres always something wrong, he's been retired a few years and doesnt really get up to much so just spends his days nitpicking at absolutely everything.

It never used to really get to me as shes a warrior and always puts on a brave face, but recently she just seems more down then ever, shes just like a robot doing a routine. I can't even remember the last time I saw her smile or have a proper laugh and that really upsets me.

We talked about them seperating n her reply was something like 'I'm 42, I'm hardly going to pack up and start a new life now am I? whats the point'

It kills me as I just don't want her to spend the rest of her life miserable

I don't even know where this is going but hey, just wanted to get it out.
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Re: Worried about my Mum - April 30th 2009, 02:28 AM

Do what your doing now and be a good son to her
Things can always change brother

I don't think your mum would want you being unhappy about this all tho so don't try and think to much about this all but just be there for her if you get me.

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Re: Worried about my Mum - April 30th 2009, 10:16 AM

I'm moving this to friends and family, I feel it fits better there.
I think you need to tell your mum that if she isn't happy, many many women start over at 40. 40 is now the new 30
If you want her to be happy, perhaps see if you can help their relationship, or just encourage her, and tell her you and your sister would be happier if she was happier.
Perhaps she just needs to know that uprooting your lives isn't going to have serious effects.

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Do not believe in traditions because they have been handed down for many generations.
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Re: Worried about my Mum - May 2nd 2009, 03:46 AM

I'm really sorry you have to see your mom like this. I know feeling bad, and worrying about a parent can be really tough. You can tell your mom that she doesn't need to start a new life... she'd just be making a change in this one. A change that could potentially make her happier. You can tell her that this change would not damage you, because you and your brother will get to enjoy her more when she is happy. My heart goes out to you. Good luck.
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