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Joining a new group of friends - January 31st 2014, 08:46 PM

This is embarrassing to write, especially as I'm turning 21, I have no friends, like nada, nothing, nobody wants to hang out with me at college but I'm recently working at a zoo and have became very friendly with the staff there and have been invited to two nights out, I'm currently only working one day a week and have such a good laugh there but they already have their established group of friends and I really want to be a part of it, I know it would take time but I want to be their friends so badly, we laugh, talk and get on so so well but I just feel worried that I'd just be on the outside of their group when I want to be a part of it.


I know this is embarrassing but don't judge, any ideas on how to get more closer to them?

I've known them about two months and have not had a problem with anyone


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Re: Joining a new group of friends - January 31st 2014, 08:54 PM

Firstly, I'm in the same boat as you. I don't really have any friends, the only people I spend time with is my boyfriend and his friends so I know how you feel. Unfortunately for me I don't get on with the people I work with so it doesn't look like I'm going to be making friends any time soon!

But anyway, I'm happy for you! I think the best advice I could give is to make sure you're not too 'full on' when you talk to them or try to spend time with them. It seems like they like you too and want to make you a part of their social group, but these things can take time. Just be yourself and keep being social with them. If they invite you out, go! If they chat to you outside of work, keep chatting. It's a process but I'm sure you'll get to where you want to be in the end.

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Re: Joining a new group of friends - February 1st 2014, 10:02 PM

Hey there, Katie!

Well making friends is certainly harder than it seems. So don't feel bad if you're struggling with this aspect of your social life. In regards to your co-workers, I think you're already doing a great job. When you go to work, continue to have a smile on your face, start joking around with them, and even invite THEM out for a night (i.e., to go to the movies, dinner after work, etc). That will not only show them that you're willing to contribute to the group, but that you're willing to be apart of the group too!

On another note, I always think it's a good idea to continue building onto and creating new friendships. With that being said, start getting involved more at college. Join a sport, a club, a sorority, a group. Start volunteering around campus. Get involved. Once you begin to do that, you'll find that friendships will begin to come more naturally (and more often).

Keep trying, and I think the ultimate outcome will be a great one!


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