TeenHelp
Support Forums Today's Posts

Get Advice Connect with TeenHelp Resources
HelpLINK Facebook     Twitter     Tumblr     Instagram    Hotlines    Safety Zone    Alternatives

You are not registered or have not logged in

Hello guest! (Not a guest? Log in above!)

As a guest on TeenHelp you are only able to use some of our site's features. By registering an account you will be able to enjoy unlimited access to our site, and will be able to:

  • Connect with thousands of teenagers worldwide by actively taking part in our Support Forums and Chat Room.
  • Find others with similar interests in our Social Groups.
  • Express yourself through our Blogs, Picture Albums and User Profiles.
  • And much much more!

Signing up is free, anonymous and will only take a few moments, so click here to register now!


Friends and Family Everyone has disagreements, even best friends and family. If you need advice about a relationship, ask us here.

Closed Thread
 
Thread Tools Search this Thread
  (#1 (permalink)) Old
TwistofFate_07 Offline
Member
Average Joe
***
 
TwistofFate_07's Avatar
 
Name: Ashley
Age: 20
Gender: Female
Location: New Jersey

Posts: 152
Blog Entries: 1
Join Date: December 28th 2012

Grandmother gives in too much - March 26th 2014, 03:52 PM

My grandmother gives in too much when it comes to me. She basically lets me do whatever i want. Whenever i want something i get it. For some reason i kinda want her to stop giving in too much. She's been doing this ever since i was a little kid and now i'm used to it. My grandmother, my 6 year old cousin, and myself had a talk about house rules and punishments for breaking the rules. We also had a conversation about the games that me and my little cousin plays and about the game ratings and what content is in the games we play. She said that she had a problem with me playing GTA because it has sexual content, nudity, and use of drugs and alcohol. First she said "no you can't play it" then she said "yes you can keep it because i bought it for you for Christmas". I said to her that I want it to be up to her because she's the parent. She still was giving in. Can anybody help me please? I don't know what to say to her.
   
  (#2 (permalink)) Old
Beccaa Offline
Member
Welcome me, I'm new!
*
 
Beccaa's Avatar
 
Name: becca
Age: 28
Gender: Female
Location: manhattan

Posts: 19
Join Date: May 16th 2013

Re: Grandmother gives in too much - March 26th 2014, 05:24 PM

First off- you've got to be ready to accept the rules she does make. It's going to mean that you can't do a lot of the things you'll want to. You might need to sit her down and say, "Grandma, sometimes I feel a little out of control and really would like some stricter rules. I may not like them at times, but it's important to me that you remain strong and not give in." It's probably hard for her to understand that you desire more rules because it's so contrary to most people your age. Just sit down and calmly talk, tell her exactly what is on your mind.

-Becca
   
1 user(s) liked this post or found it helpful.
  (#3 (permalink)) Old
Chris Offline
Member
Outside, huh?
**********
 
Chris's Avatar
 
Name: Chris
Age: 24
Gender: Male
Location: Illinios

Posts: 4,247
Blog Entries: 3
Join Date: November 28th 2011

Re: Grandmother gives in too much - April 1st 2014, 04:29 AM

Hey there, Ashley.

This is a very tough situation to be in. Sometimes grandmothers assume a different role, even when they're a guardian. Meaning in traditional times, grandparents tend to spoil, and "give in" to their grandchildren. Your grandmother may very well be stuck in this position, and may not want to change the way she is dealing with you guys. I'm glad that this is a "problem" for you guys, because a lot of people would take advantage of the situation they're in and/or take it to even higher heights (i.e., becoming verbally abusive to their guardian, completely disrespecting their guardian, etc).

In this particular situation, I think you guys should, to some extent, become your own parents. Meaning, set rules and boundaries for yourself. Some examples of this can be: not talking your grandmother into/out of things, not buying anything that is of mature content until 17/18, coming in at your own set "curfew" (this should be at a respectable hour), etc. Setting boundaries and restrictions on yourself will not only help you with your current situation, but it will also allow you to become a more responsible and disciplined person.


Best wishes,
Chris


Chris
I hope you know that you deserve it all. The best, the most honest, the most beautiful purest love in the world. Not only to be loved by others, but to be loved by yourself. To look in the mirror and think "Yes, I'm exactly who I want to be". To speak up and be proud of yourself. To be brave and open. You deserve the nicest and most caring people to walk into your life. You deserve it all, you know. The whole world...
   
  (#4 (permalink)) Old
.:Bibliophile:. Offline
PM me anytime!

TeenHelp Veteran
*************
 
.:Bibliophile:.'s Avatar
 
Gender: Just me

Posts: 16,721
Blog Entries: 1770
Join Date: January 18th 2009

Re: Grandmother gives in too much - April 1st 2014, 08:07 AM

Hey there,

Do you think you could try talking to your grandmother about your feelings in regards to this issue? Sit down with her and explain to her that you want her to be more strict with you and to set more boundaries? It might help her if you communicate this issue with her. The fact is she is doing her best and so she can't know where she needs to 'improve' unless it is conveyed to her.


|Lead Moderator|Newsletter Officer|
   
Closed Thread

Bookmarks

Tags
grandmother

Thread Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off




All material copyright 1998-2019, TeenHelp.
Terms | Legal | Privacy | Conduct | Complaints

Powered by vBulletin®.
Copyright ©2000-2019, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
Search engine optimization by vBSEO.
Theme developed in association with vBStyles.