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Friend attempeted suicide - May 10th 2009, 04:17 AM

So I've known this girl for a while she was in girl scouts with me and shes in my computer class now. Recently she attempted suicide and now I don't really know how to act when I'm around her. I mean i was never really her friend I never talked to her before this. But now I'm scared that if I start talking to her shes gunna think its because I feel sorry for her (witch is true) and if I talk to her what am I going to say like I don't want to make it seem like all I think about when shes around is that she attempted suicide (also true) i want it to seem like I don't even know she did it or like it never happened i guess, cause I know everyones been treating her differently after she came back to school and i don't want it to seem like im treating her differently too. So thats why i don't want to ignore her like i usually do because it might seem like i dont like her cause of what she did (and i go to a catholic high school and i know a few people feel that way about her now). I just want to make coming back to school a little bit easier for her but i dont know how. a little help please?
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Re: Friend attempeted suicide - May 10th 2009, 04:34 AM

I'm no psychologist, do your best to treat her like a person I Guess. You cant take personal responsibility for something like suicide unless you are the one thinking about it. That being said, just do what you can to be civil, fair ,and kind to her. You dont and SHOULDNT be forced into a friendship because of her actions. Take what she did as a reminder that everyone has their own struggles, and try to use that knowledge to remember to treat everyone with a sense of civility, which would include her.
   
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Re: Friend attempeted suicide - May 11th 2009, 10:06 PM

Hi Brianna,

I don't think feeling obligated is a good reason to start up a friendship. If you truly care about this person and how she is feeling, then get to know her better and ask if she wants to hang out, but if you just want to get to know her because she attempted suicide, then I don't think that's a good idea.

If you care about this girl and would like to be friends, then ask for her phone number or email and start hanging out with her outside of school. That makes it less likely that you are just hanging out with her because you feel you have to. It's also a good way to make her feel comfortable and have her know that people want to spend time with her.

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Re: Friend attempeted suicide - May 11th 2009, 10:14 PM

I agree with what the posters above me have said. If you feel like starting a friendship with this person only because of what happened (and it seems like you do) then I don't believe you should be starting this friendship. You know that you don't want to treat her any differently but if this is the reason you want to start a friendship with her, then that is exactly what you are doing (treating her differently).

If however, you had been contemplating a friendship with her before this happened, then perhaps this situation may make it slightly easier for you to begin a friendship with her.

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Re: Friend attempeted suicide - May 11th 2009, 10:39 PM

k thanks guys!! you guys r awesome!


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