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He Plays Up In Front Of My Boyfriend - May 17th 2009, 06:12 PM

Ok I dont know whether this goes in Relationships&Dating/ Pregnancy & Childcare or in here, so yeah feel free to move it!!

Basically, I've got a 4 yr old nephew. Me and him has always been pretty close. He's the only one and a bit spoilt rotten if I'm being honest by everyone. Also it always me who ends up playing with him when he's over (which is quite a bit)

Then just over a year ago, I got with my boyfriend, and things changed a wee bit. I'm not in the house as much, I do spend time with him when I'm there but careful to make sure I'm not lumbered with him.

The only thing is my nephew is very bold now when my boyfriend & I are in the house, he throws things at me, climbs all over me and hits me and generally plays up. And it really bugs me and ends up stressing me out. I know discipling him is not my problem but its getting me annoyed something serious-and then I dont wanna spend time with him.

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Re: He Plays Up In Front Of My Boyfriend - May 17th 2009, 06:48 PM

He obviously doesn't like to share the attention. This is normal in kids of all ages. Even grown men and women do this.

Is he at the age where you can sit him down and talk to him? Explain to him that cousin Mia loves him very much but can't spend all her time with him anymore. etc etc. Try explaining to him in a nice way why you need him to behave and get him to talk to you about why he doesn't seem to like your boyfriend as well before going in and punishing him. If this doesn't work, then use disipline.

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Re: He Plays Up In Front Of My Boyfriend - May 18th 2009, 02:51 AM

Hi Mia,

If your nephew is over at your house without his mom, then it is your job to discipline him. He may not be your child, but he is in your home, and that means he needs to play by your rules.

The first thing you need to do is figure out what your rules and punishments are. They can be as simple as not playing a game he wanted to play, or giving him a time out in the corner. He needs to know that hitting and throwing things at you is not appropriate under any circumstances. Remember that if you start a discipline like a 'time out', then you need to keep in consistent.

Also, I really think you should talk to his mom about this. He may be a spoiled kid, but his parents need to lay down the rules in their own house as well or else this will only get worse as he tests what he can get away with.

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Re: He Plays Up In Front Of My Boyfriend - May 18th 2009, 02:57 AM

Yeah, I pretty much agree with Nat ^^

I have a 4 year old cousin too who comes over every now and then but we tell her what she can and cannot do. We still have fun when she's over but you have to draw the line somewhere and let them know its not a free-for-all when they're over at your house.

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