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Question Not Liking Moms Soon To Be Wife. - May 18th 2016, 02:09 PM

They met last year. They haven't even been together for a year and my moms girlfriemd is already gonna propose. I'm pretending to be haopy and stuff because everytime I tell my mom I don't like her girlfriend then she says that I just don't want her to be happy. Her girlfriend acts like a child sometimes and takes everything seriously. It bugs me. The only thing that sucks is that if my mom got rid of her girlfriend then that means my soon to be step sister goes to and I like her. She is the best sister. Any advice?


Edit: She Asked My Mom To Marry Jer Last Night...
I Don't Know. I Never Get To Spend Time With My Own Mom Because She Thinks She Has To Be Around Her 24/7.. It Sucks. I Would Like To Spend Time With My Mom Like We Used To Before She Met Her Girlfriend..Well Soon To Be Wife.

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Re: Not Liking Moms Soon To Be Wife. - May 18th 2016, 08:24 PM

I am glad you're supportive of your mom but it must be hard not liking her soon to be wife. Is there anything else in particular that you don't like about her? If it's something small, maybe you can try to ignore it, or find ways to avoid it or work through it. If there's a lot of reasoning behind it, maybe you can sit down with your mom and explain that you do want her to be happy, but would like to talk through a few things with her so you can get it out of your system.

I think some more time to adjust can help you. I know time doesn't heal everything, but it helps and changes perspective eventually as well. Sometimes we have to make sacrifices for the people we love, or for things we want (like your step sister).


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Re: Not Liking Moms Soon To Be Wife. - May 19th 2016, 03:03 PM

I never get to spend time with my mom, I always get yelled at by mom because of her girlfriend,her girlfriend makes me wanna self harm because she frustrates me and makes me depressed,her girlfriend is trying to be a parent to us kids and it buggs me because I already have 2 parents.
I'm just gonna wait it out and ignore stuff as much as possible...
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Re: Not Liking Moms Soon To Be Wife. - May 22nd 2016, 05:03 PM

Maybe you can sit down with your mom and ask if you can spend some time alone with her before the wedding. Your mom's marriage is a big deal for all of you, and some time alone before all of the changes might benefit you both.

It might also be worth explaining to her that you are not yet adjusted to the idea of her future wife becoming a parental figure for you and you need time to cope with it. I suggest looking at these self-harm alternatives.


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Re: Not Liking Moms Soon To Be Wife. - May 22nd 2016, 05:20 PM

I am so glad that you are supportive of your mom and her girlfriend even though you don't like the girlfriend. I am so sorry that you don't like your moms girlfriend and that you don't get enough time with your mother. Some people act childish because it makes them feel younger or they actually might have a mental disorder. I can't tell you for sure but being with someone 24/7 and being clingy and acting childish is a sign of BPD but she might not have it and it might just be her personality.

I honestly would sit your mom and her girlfriend down and tell them exactly how you feel. I would talk about it with them. Tell them you feel like you don't matter and that you would love some mother daughter time with your mom. Maybe on those days the girlfriend can spend it with her daughter.

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