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Exclamation She doesn't want to meet me - June 9th 2016, 09:51 PM

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So my family consists of me, my mum, dad, half brother (mum's side), brother and finally my half sister (dad's side). Me and my sister get along really well and can talk for hours on end. She lives about 3 hours away and the sad part is that i haven't seen her in 6 years. Now she is 19 and we just found out that she is 13 weeks pregnant, and recently i've been really wanting to meet up with her. Now i've asked if she would like to come visit in the past and she said 'i'll check my work schedule' and when i asked again 2 weeks later she said she was totally 'busy'. She always has time off and just want to spend ONE day with her but she can't even do that. I remember wishing every birthday when i blew out my candles for her to visit and she never did.

How can i ask her if she wants to meet up?
and should i confront her about always being 'busy'?

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Re: She doesn't want to meet me - June 10th 2016, 12:56 AM

Well, I don't think it's so unreasonable for her to be too busy to come visit. 3 hours away is a lot of travelling. You might see it as wanting just 1 day, but that day is 6 hours longer for her when you consider that she has to drive 3 hours in and out. She might even have to take a whole weekend, which is a big deal if she's got a lot on her plate. She really might not have an entire day to just "give up"that easily. That's what happens with my brother who only lives 1.5 hours away, it's sometimes hard to see him much because we both have hectic schedules and often have a ton of things we have to get done and these things get back logged until we have a mostly free day. It's not personal, it's just the way it is and she might be vague about if if she's worried the things that she needs to do won't sound as important to you as they are to her (eg. Maybe she just really needs to do laundry and get groceries on her day off because that's the only day she has time, many people might think she should just do it another day but maybe it's not possible)

If she simply can't get away for a day, maybe your parents can drive you to where she lives for a weekend. If that's not possible, maybe you can get a bus or train to where she lives. You could even take advantage of this by offering to help her do things / buy things she needs for the baby, although it is pretty early to be stocking up too much.




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