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Unhappy My friends never wish me happy birthday (A vent) - July 26th 2016, 07:17 PM

Hey, just for reference, it's not my birthday but it's coming up soon, and I was reminded of this.

So in my school, the popular thing to do is sing "Happy Birthday" really loud at lunch, even if you don't know the kid. The kid's friends will usually start it up and everyone (well, a big group of students) will join in because it's fun, even if they don't know or like the kid.

A large percentage of people will even get their buddies little minor gifts- but hey, im not expecting that much

Except this has never once happened on my birthday, (in school that is, I usually have a family party where people sing and give gifts, but I've given up on friend parties besides inviting one or two people for a sleepover).

It wouldn't really be a huge deal if I'd never reminded them or expressed not wanting them to do it.

But every single year I tell my friends that my birthday is coming up, ("its next wednesday!" "It's tomorrow", etc.) And they still never remember, or maybe don't care enough to

In fact it's only when I mention it ON THE DAY that it's my birthday that they manage an, "oh cool! happy birthday!" but I still never get sung to, and I always mention that I wish people would because I feel left out, but it never works.

What's even worse is that I have a friend born the day after me, and EVERYONE remembers their birthday and sings it to them and sometimes close friends even give them a drawing or a card or a pencil

Last year I didn't even mention it because I knew no one would remember or care enough anyway, and i was right..


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Re: My friends never wish me happy birthday (A vent) - July 27th 2016, 03:50 AM

Hello there.

I think that for you, you just need better friends who will care for you ... if you are around people who really care, really want to make you happy and really want to make your joy theirs, they would be more than willing to treat you to something you like, and make you feel appreciated on your birthday. The fact that people around you don't appreciate you saddens me, and you need better friends.

I think that they are missing out on you, and thats a shame because you're someone who deserves to be appreciated, cared for and loved.


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Re: My friends never wish me happy birthday (A vent) - July 27th 2016, 10:06 PM

Hey there,

I think you need to talk to your friends about this and tell them how much this bothers you. They might have some reason they don't acknowledge it. But, at the end of the day it's a pretty poor thing to do to someone that you are supposed to care about. Especially if they make it known that they want these things to occur. At the end of the day, if they don't fix this problem then it is very likely that you need to work on finding new friends; people that will show you friendship.

I hope that this helped and I am wishing you the best of luck.


   
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