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Family is on a diet - March 18th 2017, 08:32 PM

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I'm not sure if this is the correct thread to post this in, move it if better suited elsewhere!

Important first note; my family does not know about the eating disorder diagnoses I received a few months back. As far as I'm aware, they don't even know that I've received mental health counseling since I went through the services offered at my university. Certain family members have responded negatively to my mental health issues in the past, therefore I am not open to discussing the eating disorder with them.

My parents and brother have been on a health kick for the past few months, and they all just started a new diet together. They haven't asked me to join them, and I do not think they will, however they often discuss the finer details of calorie content, weight loss, etc. in front of me and I find it difficult to get out of those conversations or steer the conversation elsewhere. This obviously isn't being done with any ill intent - they have no way of knowing about my ED - but is something that is massively triggering and cumbersome for me to deal with.

I was wondering if anyone has ideas of how to quickly change the conversation or make the conversation cease without making my own struggles evident.

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Re: Family is on a diet - March 19th 2017, 02:37 PM

Do they talk about it during a certain time, or is it any time? If you could predict the time, then you could try to avoid it based on that. If they don't talk directly to you, but rather to one another in front of you, you can try to leave the situation. You can kind of slip out of the background or you can make an excuse to leave (e.g. forgot something in the car, forgot to do x or y).

You can also practice deep breathing and self-talk when they talk about triggering things. This can be good practice because you can't always leave the situation. Something I've noticed when practicing self-talk is that when I use it enough, I hear that more than I hear what people are saying.

I don't currently have any ideas for changing the topic, but there are a lot of articles online that can be worth taking a look at. Maybe someone with more ideas will post to your thread.


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