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Unhappy Weight on my shoulders from friends and family. - August 9th 2017, 08:20 AM

Hi, I'm having a difficult time and I'm not sure what to do. I recently was dropped by one of my friends. They got angry at me for a mistake that i made and i think they view me as the scum of the earth. I have tried to apologize but nothing is working. This has gotten me feeling very upset. This person has dropped me as a friend before and then we were friends again. I'm tired of feeling like i can't make any mistakes without being dropped by this friend. it has happened several times and i hate it. I wish i didn't care about it and i wish i could move on but I'm hurting a lot over this. Also i feel like some of my family members are ignoring me. I've tried calling and messaging one of my family members but the wont respond, it makes me feel like i did something wrong but i don't know. On top of that my dad is an alcoholic and i feel like he acts immature and he gets to be a handful. I feel like i have to be the adult sometimes. He gets angry a lot, he also has a gambling addiction and i have to watch him mess up with that too. He gets drunk and then gambles his money away. All of these things are weighing on my shoulders and i feel like I'm sinking. I don't know what to do.


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Re: Weight on my shoulders from friends and family. - August 10th 2017, 01:10 PM

You have a lot on your mind right now, hopefully sharing it here helped you a little bit.

How long ago did you and your friend argue? It is positive that you tried to apologize, but maybe your friend needs time to cool down. Perhaps you could give it a few days and then try again and see how that goes. If you do that, do you think you could confront them about how you're feeling? You could let them know that you feel upset when they drop you as a friend.

If you give your friend time to cool down and they still do not want to talk it is possible that they will come to you in their own time. If not, you could look into making some new friends so you can create and strengthen new relationships.

It must be discouraging to message your family members and get no reply. Try to remember that there could be a variety of reasons why they aren't replying, though. For instance, maybe they're busy with work or their phone isn't working well. They could have lost their phone or they're feeling sick or even doing some self-care and waiting to reply until later. More than likely you did not do anything wrong.

It is unfair when the roles change in a parent-child relationship and the child becomes the parent. Do know that while you want to help your dad, what he does to himself is on him. No one else can make decisions for him. So, if he drinks and gambles money away that is completely on him. Can anyone else help you look after your dad so you don't have to do it on your own?


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