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Mom taking over Birthday - November 27th 2017, 05:58 AM

I turn 16 this December and my mom seems to think it's her birthday.

I've tried talking to her about things that I would like to do but she never listens to me and only wants to do things she finds fun.

Do I let her have 'her' birthday party?
(talking to her doesn't really work I have tried many times)
note: everything she suggests is super extra or things that I really do not enjoy
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Re: Mom taking over Birthday - November 27th 2017, 06:49 AM

Hey there.
I'm sorry to hear your mum isn't listening to you. Do you think you could ask your father or a sibling or a family member to step in and remind your mum it's your birthday?
Alternatively, you could perhaps put your foot down and tell your mum you don't like the ideas she has and you want to do the stuff you like.
Its possible she's just excited and not realising how she is behaving, and perhaps repeatedly telling her may help.
Hope it works out for you, and happy birthday in advance!

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Re: Mom taking over Birthday - November 27th 2017, 02:11 PM

Asking someone else to help with your birthday such as your dad or another relative is a great idea. Especially since someone else may be more tuned into things that you typically enjoy.

Perhaps, as it was suggested, you can tell your mom that these things aren’t something you’re interested in. You asked if you should let your mom have her party and perhaps you can do things her way and then plan something special for yourself later on? That way there’s some compromise between you and your mom?

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Re: Mom taking over Birthday - November 27th 2017, 06:44 PM

I agree that it could be a good idea to talk to another adult and see if they can help you plan things and, maybe if you talk to someone else they can help get your mom to listen a bit more.

That being said, I think, sometimes parents have these ideas about what will make their child's party special. They usually have the best intentions (i.e wanting the child to have the best party) but these intentions will sometimes lead to them ignoring their child's wants. It's definitely a tough situation to be in.

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